Author McGrupp Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 i appreciate all the love. im def gettng there and not ruining any women i think. anyone remeber my rebound girl back in November? the red flag girl who did heroin and so on. yeah...shes getting married and im invited. and im completely happy for her. really i am. life is funny sometimes...
madrugada Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 McGrupp, listen, man. Forget about the alpha male BS. That's manufactured "advice" from dudes wanting to make a buck from nice, shy guys trying to get laid. You know what women like? Confidence. Be yourself, but be confident that you know what you want and you know how to get it. Don't be aggressive, be assertive. It also helps to be funny. You have no weaknesses there, from what I can see. Make a girl laugh, and the door is open. It's good to get back out there and start dating again, but if you see your new relationships as ways to take your mind off your ex you're with those girls for the wrong reason. Take your time. You're young, and you have a lot to offer. Have fun, sure, but don't go breaking hearts because you just don't give a ***t. You have a world and a life in front of you. A few years from now you'll look back and you won't have the regrets you carry with you now. Because it was all necessary for you to become the person you end up being.
Author McGrupp Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 Forget about the alpha male BS. That's manufactured "advice" from dudes wanting to make a buck from nice, shy guys trying to get laid. yeah im not totally drinking the kool-aid, just some of the stuff hits and is good for a guy like me, who hasnt been single since college, and now has this new world of singleness to deal with. i take the good stuff on approaching, not taking rejection personally and staying focused on your goals which shouldnt be women, but rather whatever your passion is...
madrugada Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 You know, being single isn't a bad thing at all. You learn more about yourself on your own than you ever will by clinging to someone else. You define yourself. No one can do that for you. (God, I wish I'd learned that years ago.) Follow your passions. Everything else will fall into place. Not to say it doesn't take work. But it's worth the effort.
Author McGrupp Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 (edited) yeah im just still down on my life. quarter life crisis type ****. need a new job/place to live or something. cant quite figure it all out and just kinda in limbo for the moment. i hope i can look back at this whole thing and be like, that was the catalyst from which i changed everything, and got everything i want in life. its just so hard to start anew, beginning working for things you hadnt thought of and to be alone with it all.. Edited February 24, 2010 by McGrupp
madrugada Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Alone is not a bad thing. You know what? You had a relationship with this girl. Everything was cool for a while but then things went south. It happens. Was it the mistakes you made? Your insecurity? What does it matter? Make peace with yourself. That's the only way you'll ever be happy. My advice? Get a cat. Girls like cats.
Author McGrupp Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 ha. see i dont really have a problem with girls. i mean i just have a problem more with where i am in life, and how my insecurity with her changed and eventually destroyed the relationship. and also how i spent so much time afraid to lose her and what we had, that i had let my life become nothing. she was the bulb and i was the moth. instead it should always be the other way around...or something. live and learn
madrugada Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Why would you let someone else define who you are? "So why do we go through all this again? Your eyes are fluttering. Such pretty wings. A moth flying into the Same old flame again It never ends" "Old Flame" by Arcade Fire. Catch them live if you can. Take a date with you. Anyway, McGrupp, I'm drunk. And yeah, I'm dealing out the advice tonight but f*** if I still don't hurt. Don't think this post will move anything forward but screw it, I'm going to bed. I'm taking my cat with me. Whatever you do, keep your sense of humor. If I know anything I know that humor can carry you through anything. And keep in mind that most comedians build their routines on ordinary human pain.
Author McGrupp Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 yes. google "famous people with depression" i think like 80% of them are comedians. neon bible is one of my favs. thanks for the love.
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