Author juan1212 Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 Found out last April. I'd be divorced by now if I didn't have to declare bankruptsy. Far as i'm concerned she's just the driver to take my kids to their part-time home. But i'm good with it. now. My life sucked so badly for the last few yrs being married. i'm actually quite happy being single. I'm with you on the rudeness. If this chick showed me she learned some manners & apoligized I would of given her a 2nd chance. Instead just a day or two after the blow-off she sent me a "hi" text as if nothing happened. I played along for about two texts to see if she'd apologize & nada so I put the phone down & stepped away. LOL! i've never forgotten a date with a woman & never just not showed up either. If I need to cancel I do properly by apologizing & arranging for a new time. Man I bet your glad to get away from her. She will get hers eventually. what goes around comes around. Yeah I got the "hi" text but didnt play along.
phineas Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 But she doestn have the ability to read your mind or maybe she doesnt even know how upset this made you. Just saying. ASK for an apology, and maybe you will get one. Heck, even DEMAND she apologize. She doesnt even know that it upset you at this point so how can she be sorry? If she doesnt think thats reasonable then walk away. Hey im just trying to help you out. If your scared of being rejected again join the hundreds of thousands of people that are also scared to be rejected...it wont make you regret it less later. If you are really done, and I mean just done with her though. Then thread over. Whats the point in beating a dead horse. If you have made up your mind, go for it and let us know how it turns out. Let's see, she was talking to him regularly & texting him up until he asked her out & she accepted. Then she blew him off & ignored him for a whole month. Then starts flirting with him & acting like nothing happened. what am I missing here that suggests she isn't screwing with his head on purpose. I'm not singling out women mind you. Some men do this all the time also. It's just obvious to most people who have had this done to them that she has no real interest in him other than as an ego feed.
Author juan1212 Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 Let's see, she was talking to him regularly & texting him up until he asked her out & she accepted. Then she blew him off & ignored him for a whole month. Then starts flirting with him & acting like nothing happened. what am I missing here that suggests she isn't screwing with his head on purpose. I'm not singling out women mind you. Some men do this all the time also. It's just obvious to most people who have had this done to them that she has no real interest in him other than as an ego feed. You have it kind of wrong. We went a some dates and everything thing went great. I saw her one nite and made plans for the following one but she cancled and pretty much stoped iniated any contact. I contacted her a couple times that week and she ignored. She finally texted me 8 days later ( which was the 1st of the 4 times shes contacted me this month) she has contacted 3 other times the last being this past friday.
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Ive seem violence against women too many times. Does that mean every man I approach is going to take a swing? NO. You cant make blanket generalizations about behavior of the opposite sex...you can approach the situation with caution and that is all, but its going to be hard to have a good relationship with anyone if they do ONE thing to make you upset and then you dismiss them. Everyone has faults. Sorry to make generalizing statements but the situation possibly calls for it. Am I wrong? Am I not seeing this woman the OP was dating is a flake and an idiot. It happens to men and women. That's what im saying. And yes everyone has faults, but more often than not, they know the difference between right and wrong. that's all im saying. She's wrong for what she did. If you dont realize what you did was wrong when everyone else does, then hey maybe you might have a screw loose somewhere. I mean she wouldnt lke it. if he stood her up and then hit her up the next day not apologizing and acting like it never happened??? WTF!
phineas Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 You have it kind of wrong. We went a some dates and everything thing went great. I saw her one nite and made plans for the following one but she cancled and pretty much stoped iniated any contact. I contacted her a couple times that week and she ignored. She finally texted me 8 days later ( which was the 1st of the 4 times shes contacted me this month) she has contacted 3 other times the last being this past friday. whoops close enough. So many of these types of stpries here they all sort of sound the same.
Left in a Lurch Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 (edited) I am pretty confident that you are the one shutting the door on this one. She may have been rude by not getting back to you as she should have, but NOT knowing the circumstances has lead you to make the assumption that shes not interested...which MAY NOT be the case. So I feel like if you still have feelings for her you should not let this stop you. It could be a minor speedbump in something that may be great for you, but you will never know if you just assume shes a bitch and walk away. You can do that if you want, but there is no shame in replying to her (it doesnt make you weak) and asking her what her deal was before in not getting back to you. Silver, I find it odd that you post this but in another thread wrote: "Id rather come off as rude or bitchy then be friendly and you (the guy i clearly find creepy) pursue more conversation that I dont want to have in the first place. Friendly banter? Sometimes its just not wanted. Especially in social situations where it could be misinterpreted for something else by a man (at a bar). " So it's ok to prejudge a man that says, "hello" to be a deviant and be rude to him, but to hold a woman accountable for her actual rude actions and judge her based on that, you say the OP should give her a chance and not rush to judgement. Interesting. Edited February 24, 2010 by Chat Room Hero
Silver_star Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Silver, I find it odd that you post this but in another thread wrote: "Id rather come off as rude or bitchy then be friendly and you (the guy i clearly find creepy) pursue more conversation that I dont want to have in the first place. Friendly banter? Sometimes its just not wanted. Especially in social situations where it could be misinterpreted for something else by a man (at a bar). " So it's ok to prejudge a man that says, "hello" to be a deviant and be rude to him, but to hold a woman accountable for her actual rude actions and judge her based on that, you say the OP should give her a chance and not rush to judgement. Interesting. I did not say that the OP should give her a chance and not rush too judgement, I only implied that after he said that he had and STILL has feeling for her. Again you have failed to read my postings in there entirety before making assumptions to suit your own women bashing agenda Hey I told him she was RUDE,and if he thought it was very distrubing or rude that she did that to him then NOT to contact her and let that be it and move on...but he said HE HAS FEELINGS for her, and there are no feelings involved in the previous thread, so your argument was for not. Sorry. One comparison though, in a round about way I said the same things in both threads..dont make assumptions about someone based on their silence, it could mean several things. If the OP wants to go NC because her silence has pissed him off, great. Power to him. And if chicky at the bar wants to not talk to someone because of whatever reasons, fine. Power to her.
Left in a Lurch Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I did not say that the OP should give her a chance and not rush too judgement, I only implied that after he said that he had and STILL has feeling for her. Again you have failed to read my postings in there entirety before making assumptions to suit your own women bashing agenda Hey I told him she was RUDE,and if he thought it was very distrubing or rude that she did that to him then NOT to contact her and let that be it and move on...but he said HE HAS FEELINGS for her, and there are no feelings involved in the previous thread, so your argument was for not. Sorry. One comparison though, in a round about way I said the same things in both threads..dont make assumptions about someone based on their silence, it could mean several things. If the OP wants to go NC because her silence has pissed him off, great. Power to him. And if chicky at the bar wants to not talk to someone because of whatever reasons, fine. Power to her. Yup, power to her for prejudging a guy but give the woman the benefit of the doubt.
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