t0ri Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 (edited) While in a relationship, do you turn down sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend ever? Often? Sometimes? And how do they react when you do so? Also, how does it make you feel when your boyfriend/girlfriend turns you down? Edited February 22, 2010 by t0ri
Wallace1 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 In my opinion, occasionally turning down/being turned down is no big deal. People get tired... Sick... Whatever. Repeated refusal means either you're sex drives are different, or some other problem is lurking.
boogieboy Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 While in a relationship, do you turn down sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend ever? Often? Sometimes? And how do they react when you do so? Also, how does it make you feel when your boyfriend/girlfriend turns you down? did you get turned down, or did you do the turn downing?
TaraMaiden Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 ...."Turn downing"...? That's what's known as 'mangling the phrase'......!
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Why would one ever turn down sex? Seriously, when I was in a relationship, there were times I felt too tired, too busy, or not in the mood; but I always gave my partner the opportunity to change my mind and it always worked! I would have a hard time accepting being turned down.
JessaL Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Seriously, when I was in a relationship, there were times I felt too tired, too busy, or not in the mood; but I always gave my partner the opportunity to change my mind and it always worked! I would have a hard time accepting being turned down. I agree with this. I would just go a little further and say, YES, I've turned down sex with an SO, but only when I was on the rag, and would give him oral instead. I've never been turned down by an SO, but would probably feel bad about it.
boogieboy Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 ...."Turn downing"...? That's what's known as 'mangling the phrase'......! I think its more fun to mangle the phrase. "turning down" seemed so boring at the time.
Hop_prophet Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 My girlfriend does all the time unfortunately. I was really upset and hurt at first and at times even angry, but it has only lead to more problems in the relationship. It seems to me that if I speak out I get even less. I'm kind of numb to it now. I don't think I've ever refused sex when she instigates but I'm a guy.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Yeah, fiance and I turn each other down sometimes...mostly when we are real tired. My birth control effects my sex drive and I used to not be in the mood at all. My fiance has been pretty good at turning me on though so I don't turn down sex like I used to. Occasional turning down isnt a problem I don't think. Like Wallace said, repeated refusals are usually what spell trouble for the relationship.
terra Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 He turned me down when his sister was spending the night. (She wouldn't have heard us - there were plenty of walls in between but fine. I would feel bad if I was turned down more than once every so often. I agree with another poster, even if I'm not in the mood, that turns around pretty fast if you just go with it. I understand if you are feeling really sick but usually your partner know that before initiating anything in the first place.
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