new socks Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Dear Love Shack, I've been lurking on this board for a little while and finally decided to register and post. About 18 months ago I went through a seriously painful breakup, and found this book, How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days, http://www.amazon.com/Heal-Broken-Heart-Days-Day/dp/0767909089/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1266875403&sr=1-1, to be very helpful. I gradually re-entered the dating world, and found another self-help book, If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?, http://www.amazon.com/Wonderful-Why-Still-Single-Strategies/dp/0609809091/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1266875782&sr=1-2, to be a huge help -- it's the best dating advice book I've ever read, and I recommend it to anyone looking for a serious LTR. So: I've recently met a wonderful, amazing, awesome, cute and smart new guy who seems to feel the same way about me. It's so exciting! We met on a dating site and have been e-mailing/flirting online for a couple of weeks now, and just had our second in-person date. We have great physical chemistry and a lot in common -- work, goals, views, style. I'm totally over the moon. But I'm also scared -- I don't want to get hurt again, and I don't want to screw this up. Can anyone recommend a good dating advice book or site? I guess I'm a self-help book junkie at this point. FWIW, I think I know his Myers-Briggs type (same as mine), and have been reading about that in books and online. But a more general book would be helpful too. Thanks so much in advance you guys!
tigereyes1428 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 my opinion would be to stop reading the books now and start living life using your own instincts and opinions - a realtionship wont work if your not prepared to take a leap of faith - if your not prepared to do that then its doomed to fail - no book can get you ready for that the only way that you can be ready is to know that if you end up hurt that you know how to dust yourself off and get over it and on with your life - if you dont know that then in my opinion it'll fail - good luck x
carhill Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 So, OP, in the 18 months since your breakup, what would you say you've learned about yourself? What lessons forged in the furnace of that LTR and ending caused material growth within you? Why do you think you're afraid of getting hurt. Where does that fear come from?
You'reasian Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 my opinion would be to stop reading the books now and start living life using your own instincts and opinions - a realtionship wont work if your not prepared to take a leap of faith - if your not prepared to do that then its doomed to fail - no book can get you ready for that the only way that you can be ready is to know that if you end up hurt that you know how to dust yourself off and get over it and on with your life - if you dont know that then in my opinion it'll fail - good luck x I like this. The only way to know yourself is through experience - relationships are always a risk: there's give and take, good and bad. Be prepaired to communicate, understand your boundaries - and go forth and relate. Don't forget to have fun
Ruby Slippers Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Those look like affiliate links = spam.
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