Gerhard Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 In your marriage or relationship with boyfriend/girlfriend, do you have a shared email account? Separate email accounts and don't give each other access? Separate email accounts and give each other access? Or separate email accounts and the subject of access never comes up?
Samantha0905 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Separate emails. Separate passwords for a variety of accounts. I've given him my password at times, however, and me his -- just when we were wanting to show each other stuff we received via email, doing stuff via paypal, etc. There's nothing really in my email I would mind him seeing, but I'd rather keep some personal privacy. I know, on here, many people say post being found to having had an affair all of this should be open for the BS to see. Maybe that is the case when the WS desperately wants to keep the marriage and that's a condition thrown at them by the BS. I would never stay in a marriage without my own personal space, so I guess that means I'm not remorseful enough. All I know is if these demands were made of me, I doubt very seriously I would go along with the plan.
Enema Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Married. We have our own email addresses associated with our ISP. It's POP mail and comes through to a mail client (not web based) that's open on the computer 24/7. Nothing is hidden there, mail gets routed to 1 folder for my stuff, another folder for hers. We have our own web gmail addresses too so there's privacy there if we really want it.
KikiW Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Separate emails, I find no benefit to having a shared account. Our computers are literally side by side, however, so if he's really curious he's free to look and vice-versa.
Undine Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 We are married and have separate computers and separate, web-based emails. I have always liked my privacy and never been one to infringe on anyone else's, as a general rule. Recently though I have been thinking pretty hard about the value of sharing passwords
Ronni_W Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 As much privacy as possible...given that the network admin has access to everything, anyway. Separate email accounts, passwords, etc., though. No idea if or how many web-based email accounts he may have...and no interest or concern about it, either. When I was network admin, I didn't access the other's emails without his knowledge. In both relationships, it was/is not a problem. Not sure how I'd react if it was a matter of a partner demanding my passwords -- emails, Facebooks, whatevers. Think I'd not take very kindly to it, at all. Possibly would be a deal breaker for me. I enjoy my right to privacy
allina Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 We are getting married this year. We have separate email addresses, the issue of accessing each others' accounts has never come up.
threebyfate Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 We have two laptops and one desktop, where we're both administrators, on all of them. We've both written down our sign-ons and passwords for everything, so if anything happens, there isn't a mad panic for access. It's part of our contingency plan, should any kind of emergency happen, as well as part of our full disclosure agreement.
Star Gazer Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 We have two laptops and one desktop, where we're both administrators, on all of them. We've both written down our sign-ons and passwords for everything, so if anything happens, there isn't a mad panic for access. It's part of our contingency plan, should any kind of emergency happen, as well as part of our full disclosure agreement. Don't you have confidential client information being exchanged via email?
threebyfate Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Don't you have confidential client information being exchanged via email? That's what password protected zip files are for.
fooled once Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 In your marriage or relationship with boyfriend/girlfriend, do you have a shared email account? Separate email accounts and don't give each other access? Separate email accounts and give each other access? Or separate email accounts and the subject of access never comes up? Why would we need a shared account? I am still ME, just because I am married. Separate He could look in my email if he wanted and visa versa, but we do not disrespect each others privacy. IF we had that kind of a issue, we would have serious problems. If I wasn't married, I would NEVER give a boyfriend access to my email and I would NEVER share email with a boyfriend. That is just too weird.
Tropic Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I have a boyfriend and I don't feel the need for us to share an e-mail. I did have a previous boyfriend who wanted to see mine. . . I didn't have anything to hide but it made me uncomfortable and uneasy. Even if I marry my boyfriend, I need my space and privacy. It is very important to keep some individuality even if you decide to share your life with that person, or you might end up feeling suffocated.
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