duece22022 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I was recently dumped about 3 months ago and i have been going out a lot with friends. I've been pretty lonely and i have not been handling the breakup well. In public i'm fine but my emotions are still eratic. i know i'm not ready to date. A couple days ago my friends and i went out and i ended hooking up with this girl who we all work with. She is def not my type and i really really regret it. Now i am embarrased and i don't know how to handle it. I also think she likes me and she already told everyone . Has any one been in a similar situation? Is there a smooth way to handle this? Please help.
SilkRose Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I was recently dumped about 3 months ago and i have been going out a lot with friends. I've been pretty lonely and i have not been handling the breakup well. In public i'm fine but my emotions are still eratic. i know i'm not ready to date. A couple days ago my friends and i went out and i ended hooking up with this girl who we all work with. She is def not my type and i really really regret it. Now i am embarrased and i don't know how to handle it. I also think she likes me and she already told everyone . Has any one been in a similar situation? Is there a smooth way to handle this? Please help. Arrange a time to meet with her privately during the day at an unromatic place, like a coffee shop and talk to her. Explain things and see how to she feels. Be sensitive to her feelings and explain that you respect her as a person. Do your best. Hope you managed to deal with the break up.
BackUpOrGetStung Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 What are you embarrassed by? By "not your type" do you mean she's ugly? Just stress to her that you're in a bad place now and your break up is really wearing on you. Sincerely apologize to her. You are going to be viewed as an ******* if you do anything but be straight with her(I don't know if that's a concern of yours).
DustySaltus Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Arrange a time to meet with her privately during the day at an unromatic place, like a coffee shop and talk to her. Explain things and see how to she feels. Be sensitive to her feelings and explain that you respect her as a person. Do your best. Hope you managed to deal with the break up. I've done this before. This is the best way to go.
Author duece22022 Posted February 22, 2010 Author Posted February 22, 2010 ya she's not attractive and i was really drunk.
BackUpOrGetStung Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Don't be embarrassed. Just tell her that you're not interested in anything, and be considerate of her feelings when doing so.
Silver_star Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 What are you embarrassed by? By "not your type" do you mean she's ugly? Just stress to her that you're in a bad place now and your break up is really wearing on you. Sincerely apologize to her. You are going to be viewed as an ******* if you do anything but be straight with her(I don't know if that's a concern of yours). My advice is a variation of this one. BEcause you work with her it will be hard to avoid akwardness and you definetly want to avoid a messy or mean talk with her. But you do need to tell her that what happened that night was fun, and that you are sorry if you lead her on to think more would come of it, but what happened that night needs to stay in the past because you realize you are not over your last breakup and not ready to be emotionally invested in anyone right now. She might be upset, but if she is mature she will realize that you are just being honest, and your trying to do the "right thing" by not stringing her along. It may be a worse move to say that the night was a "mistake", because no one wants to hear that, but remember that less is more...just say you had a fun time, but it wont go any furthur because you are simply not in the right place for that and dont want to lead her on that you are interested by continuing to have sex or other activities with her. So thank her for a lovely time (even if it sucked) and tell her that it was a one off.
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