engravefeelthevoid Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 OKay well we dated on valentines (our first date)...we kissed....then 2 days later she sends a msg saying she's not ready for a relationship and she wants us to be friends...I dun care I got things to do anyways...... She calls my friend who is also her friend and she tells him that she wants me to give her a movie that I had gotten her when I was abroad... couldn't she have called me ? what do you think I should do ? I'm not talking to her...just seeing her around with some people and avoiding her... Should I go give her the movie ? or give it to the guy to give it to her ? or should I NOT give it to her at all ??? I want her but I also want my pride and I want to maintain the dominant frame.... any advice would be appreciated
BWLoca Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 IMO, if she can't call and ask for it herself, then she obviously doesn't want it THAT bad...
DustySaltus Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Give it to your friend and forget about it.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 If you are "friends" then she should be able to call you and ask for it.
boogieboy Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 (edited) To maintain the dominant frame, Dont give it to your friend. if your friend asks for it, because she couldnt, then you say "I dont have it." let her come to YOU. Edited February 22, 2010 by boogieboy
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 that's the thing...she DOES want the movie it's her fav and am the only one who has an original copy of it......I am sooo ignoring her omg it's crazy...she's trying to get me jelous by walking all the time with a really close friend of mine (same one whos supposed to get the movie from me and he's 3 years younger than her) and am not giving it any attention I dont wanna torture her...I just wanna maintain my dominant frame and atleast get some appreciation I mean wtf ? what she's a princess not to come and ask for it personally ?
hats Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Just do whatever you want. What does it matter what her intentions are or how she's going to interpret you actions? She already told you she's not interested. The fact that you're even giving the situation this much thought is what's going to make you lose your "dominant frame" whatever that means...
betamanlet Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 OKay well we dated on valentines (our first date)...we kissed....then 2 days later she sends a msg saying she's not ready for a relationship and she wants us to be friends...I dun care I got things to do anyways...... She calls my friend who is also her friend and she tells him that she wants me to give her a movie that I had gotten her when I was abroad... couldn't she have called me ? what do you think I should do ? I'm not talking to her...just seeing her around with some people and avoiding her... Should I go give her the movie ? or give it to the guy to give it to her ? or should I NOT give it to her at all ??? I want her but I also want my pride and I want to maintain the dominant frame.... any advice would be appreciated Only give it to her if you want nothing from her AND she asks you. She's making her and your friend do the dirty work for her. Don't reward that behavior.
Left in a Lurch Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 (edited) When someone sends you a message like that, the best thing to reply is, "Oh thank God! I was thinking the exact same thing after our date but I didn't know how to break it to you. Thank you! All the best." As for the movie if it is something you own or paid for, I wouldn't give it to her. Tell her friend you don't see why you would just give it away to an acquaintance or that you gave it away already and leave it at that. Or else tell your mutual friend next time you are at the bar that you'll mail it to her if he gives you $5 for shipping and buy a beer with it and forget to mail it. Edited February 24, 2010 by Chat Room Hero
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