shelovesyou Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 my ex left me two and a half months ago for someone else we went through so much together we were together over a year and were going to have a baby together but unfortunatly lost it to be discarded like this feels awful he says he loves his new girlfriend more than me and is ploughing so much effort into their relationship, taking her on holiday etc etc so, will karma ever get him? what are the chances that he'll want me back p.s i know i shouldnt want to be second best, but at this moment in time, i do... advice?
blinded Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I don't know if they ever come back. My guess is that they don't. Although deep down many of us want them to come back. Try not to focus on 'them'. Focus on you and healing.
cdt76 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I would not want her to come back. I'd rather see her with cancer.
DustySaltus Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 They usually come back the day after you finally have decided to move on. One ex came back nearly 2 years later but I had moved on by them. We fall in love with the person they were, not the person they have become. In the beginning it was all about each others needs...then it became solely about there needs. I'm very sorry about your situation.
DustySaltus Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I would not want her to come back. I'd rather see her with cancer. That's not cool. I wouldn't wish that upon anyone let alone my EX who did some awful things to me.
Ilovecake Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 by the time they come back you won't want them anymore. I know right now the only way you think you can heal the pain is to resume your relationship but that will only make things worse. The harsh reality is that he told you you're not good enough for him and he has absolutely no sympathy for your feelings. Do you really want to be with someone who feels that way about you? Will that really make you a happier person or will it cause more pain knowing what you know now. By leaving you he burned his bridges. No matter what, things will never be the same as they were before. What you can do however is channel all that energy you would use to get him back and use it on bettering yourself and creating a happy life for yourself. It feels so much better to strut your ‘happy go lucky successful’ self in front of your ex then it is to go back to the same crappy situation. Make him see what he can no longer have, he’ll want to come back then but you will no longer want him.
skydiveaddict Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 so, will karma ever get him? what are the chances that he'll want me back Karma probably will get him His chances of coming back are not good (slim/none) Don't ever let yourself take second place . Never.
bananaboat11 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I'm the child of a psychologist.. so i'm ****ed up to begin with, but here is my two cents... When you're a dumpee... A Notice to all dumpees... from a dumpee who is heartbroken...and was USED Are they deserving of a second chance? NO! Here's why... I hope these 3 posts I wrote help..
annxxdisaster Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I'm the child of a psychologist.. so i'm ****ed up to begin with, but here is my two cents... When you're a dumpee... A Notice to all dumpees... from a dumpee who is heartbroken...and was USED Are they deserving of a second chance? NO! Here's why... I hope these 3 posts I wrote help.. you DO know i was kidding when i said that, right?
cdt76 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 That's not cool. I wouldn't wish that upon anyone let alone my EX who did some awful things to me. Some people are so evil they do not deserve to walk this earth.
bananaboat11 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 you DO know i was kidding when i said that, right? Yes. I do.
9Lives Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 i was hoping my ex would come back. Thanks for reminding me to let that go. sigh
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