zacharoni16 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago, we are both 21 years old and lost our virginity to each other. We had a great relationship, barely ever fought, and I treated her like my queen. We did have a long distance relationship about 10 months out of those 2 years. Then one day I get a text message, "I need space, and I'm super stressed and I'm so confused about my emotions right now, Lets take a break" Then about 4 days later she said "I miss you to the point where I have panic attacks, and I feel like we're not growing as a couple". This was when I was across the state for 2 months, but now I'm back home for good within 10 miles of her. Then she just said "We are done" This came out of nowhere, and she doesn't want to work it out, and just said her feelings changed. And 2 days after we broke up, she started kissing her friend Dylan. She keeps giving me the excuse her feelings have changed for me. I'm so confused, that sounds like a really immature BS answer, I even told her that. We had such a great loving relationship, and we helped each other in every way, and she still saids she truely loved me, and she will always love me, and she wants me to move on with my life.
rand0m Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 My ex said the same thing after 5 years. "I love you, you're an amazing person, a great boyfriend, I want you to be happy but I can't be the one to make you happy. Move on, don't wait for me, don't act with concern of how I will re-act, just move forward. I'm not in love with you, and I don't see a future besides a friendship." I cried, I begged, I pleaded, I tried to make her see all the good we had going for us, but it was a waste of time. I've drawn the white flag, knelt down at the mercy of fate and destiny, and have given up for now. She knows where I live, she knows who I am, and that's that. The rest is out of my/your/our control. All I can suggest to you, do what feels right for you. If you try and don't succeed, at least you tried. If you realize that you don't deserve to be second best (which you don't), then move forward, leave her behind instead of letting her leave you behind. Lastly, every single person who posts is just another opinion. Every situation, personality, relationship is different. Nobody has the right answer. For as many people who have kept in contact and fought for their exes and have succeeded, there's an equal amount who have failed. The same goes for no contact. It's your life, as long as you don't waste it, do what you need to do.
Author zacharoni16 Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 Thanks random, that made me feel better. It's so hard, well somedays I'm fine, and others I'm a complete mess. The thought of her with another guy drives me insane, but if she is happy I guess it's not a bad thing. I really do love her, and I'll do anything at all for her, even walk away from her to be happy
rand0m Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 I know, we all have our ups and downs. I had a mini breakdown this morning, until I realized that everything will be ok. At the end of the day, if it was meant to be, it will be. If not, than what IS meant to be will be. Hardest thing I've had to continue to tell myself is that right there. When you think what feels so right just doesn't seem to work out, you question life itself. You question fate, you question destiny, you question the reason for existence. How could life be so cruel, how could love hurt so bad, what's the point to all of this? I don't have an answer. Nobody does. You just keep breathing, keep waking up in the morning and going to sleep at night. We find happiness only to have it taken away, continuously disappointed time and time again, but if you add up all the positives, all the good, you realize that it's worth it in the end. The good outweighs the bad. Love conquers, regardless of where that love lies. You may well love her forever, and noone can take that away from you, but you have to love yourself more, for your own happiness. Good luck and stay strong.
Author zacharoni16 Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 So I deleted her off FB and have been on NC for four days now. I took an hour long hot shower and just reflected on everything. I know I treated her the best I could, and she will never forget me and how great I treated her. Eventually I'm gonna pop into her mind one day, and she will miss me, and finally realize what she has done. It may be too late, it is always too late it seems for a majority of people. I'm not sure if I would even take her back if she asked or begged, I would definitely be very hesitant, but I can't keep thinking she will take me back, I need to move on with my life, and if it happens it happens. I've been working out hardcore these past 3 months, lost 15 pounds, packing on muscle, gonna even workout harder now get in some serious shape. Also I am starting a new job that pays really decent for my age and experience, and I'm also going back to school for my Bachelors degree. I'm gonna try to become the best I can be, I need to become successful and try my hardest. Laying down and being depressed and feeling sorry for myself is not an option, I will be in the same spot maybe even lower if I did that. I love this forum and the people on it, like you Random , you guys and girls make my bad days happier and I learn a lot, and thank you so much
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