Shy drunk texter?

[LoveLace]

So a few weeks ago I met a cute guy at the tavern where my best friend works..I visit her there when I can because it's about the only way we get to see each other for the most part. Anyway, come to find out he's a regular there too. He was sitting next to me and we were talking and he was flirting, yadda yadda. He invited me back to his buddy's place with them but I said no because I had just met him. We did exchange phone numbers though and he called me later that night to say happy birthday, which I thought was nice. My best friend waits on him often and said he would be a great catch...nice looking, smart, successful, etc.

 

So the next day I texted thanks for the birthday message, asked how his day was going or something, his answers were all very short and closed-ended. So after that I just didn't text him again. Saw him at the tavern a couple weeks later, and again he was sitting next to me so I just hung out like normal. He flirted again a little. See him again just the other day, and the flirting was hard core this time...later that night he was texting me like crazy and sending me pics of himself, yadda yadda. But I fell asleep...so the next day I texted that I fell asleep and his pics were funny, etc...but I get nothing in return.

 

Yesterday I had planned to go there for dinner...and texted him that I may see him if he's there. He didn't respond but then after midnight last night when he's drunk he asks me "what's up?"...and again, I was sleeping. (I ended up being too tired to go). So today I just said "sorry, I was sleeping"...and nothing. I mean WTF? It seems he likes me but what makes him think I can just be his drunk texting buddy? Is he the type that is extremely shy when he's sober or what? My best friend said she's never seen him outside of work so she doesn't know what he's like that way. he's definitely nice to me when I see him there, he doesn't get handsy or anything but if the flirting game starts it's clear he likes it. Anyway, what is this dude's deal?!

[JohnM]

Perhaps you should push on with it a little more when you see him in person. If he pulls away perhaps he just likes the banter?

 

The hot and cold texting sounds a bit off, It could be that the texts which come soon after seeing you in person are when he feels more confident and boosted by the real contact he had with you. When there is a longer gap afterwards his confidence fades and he clams up?

 

The drunken thing could also fly here I suppose, its going to make most people more social but its a text. Texts don't really require extra confidence to send as you can take your time composing them and if you're shy thats where you get most of your work done as you are more confident and in control. Just be straight up, next time you meet up go for the super flirt in person and follow it up with a prod aksing when you two can meet up again for something closer to a date if you feel it right and you've been given the correct signals etc..