jojo593 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 (edited) i am a 27 year old male who has been married for 7 years in the first two years me and my wife have a very active sex life makeing love every night. but during the 3rd year it all started going down hill first droping to twice a week and then in the forth and to date we don't make love very often maby like once a month i spend every moment i can makeing her feel sexy but nothing seems to help. when i try to make comments about sex i always get the same reply maby later or i'm not in the mood i have tryed to spice thing up with roleplaying and that did not work. it had gotten so bad that i feel like i am not attractive. i have tried to talk to her and she says it will get better but it never does i have ran out of options.is there any thing i'm doing wrong PLZ help any advice would be very greatful Edited February 22, 2010 by jojo593
Green Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 So you have sex once a month? Then it could be worse. I'm very suprised you had sex every day for two years and then it dropped down to twice a week. Twice a week seems like a good amount of sex. Would you be happy if you were able to have sex once or twice a week. First off are you in shape? If you are not in shape then going to the gym and eating healthy could make you feel and look better that would help. How is the rest of your life going? Are you doing the things you want in life and persuing your goals in life. Women find driven men verry attractive and if your life is in a rutt such as working a dead end job or working no job then adding some goals to your life and trying hard to achieve them could help. Other then the sex problem, do you guys have other problems. Like do you guys have arguements about the sex or other things. having arguements with your wife about the sex is going to be counter productive. So find a way to be happy and not have arguements, go find a book or person who can give you advice that works for you. Do you and your wife have kids I'm curiouse. If so what is that like, are you both happy with the way you are raising them?
biqboy42o Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Is there another person in the picture or any suspicions?
Jeff1962 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Know what I find interesting? Men are just supposed to put up with their needs not being met, suck it up and take it. Now turn this around and stop doing things for your wife, anything at all. Stop calling her, stop listening, stop talking to her, stop helping her when she needs help. Do this and watch the sh*t hit the fan.
carhill Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Men don't have to put up with anything. We choose to. With that choice comes consequences and responsibilities. IMO, it's healthier that the choice come from a positive place rather than a negative one, like fear. IOW, 'I deserve better than this and I'm going to work diligently to get better than this' and whatever that takes, including excising the dearth of positivity from their existence. See, women have no problem doing this. Just read the forums here. Learn from them. Nothing wrong with that
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