Soru Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 So I'm in this new relationship, and I gotta say things have been running pretty smoothly. The two of us are already pretty intimate, and we both feel extremely close, and open already. But there's one problem I'm kinda worried about. Her parents. I haven't met them yet, but from what I heard about her dad... He's somewhat intimidating. He's not racist, but he doesn't want her to date a black guy, and she said he was pretty firm about that, and to make matters more stereotypical is that he's a cop lol. He also seems like the macho commando type of dad from what I heard. Eh, what should I do? I gotta meet him eventually, and I wanna be prepared for anything. I have a feeling I'd get the parental interrogation worse than most for the fact I'm african american. I dunno, kinda worried.... Advice?
TaraMaiden Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Meet on neutral territory. Be comfortable, be yourself. The only one pre-judging this so far, is you. if you don't want him to make his mind up about you, before he's even met you, don't do the same to him. good luck!
St. Nick Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 If he doesn't want his girl to date a black guy then he's racist. There's no in-between. Also, if she can't make the decision to be with you despite her dad's objections then she's not worthy of you and needs to be dumped.
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Has your gf told her dad that you are African American? The longer he knows the more time he has to get over his objections. What are you and your gf's ages? Is everything you know about her dad coming from her or other people who know him? Do they have a good relationship? Has she dated outside of her race before? It may not be as bad as you think.
DustySaltus Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 If he sees that your intimidated he will JUMP on that from what you told me about his persona. Shake his hand, look him in the eye, be respectful and just go with the flow. If things are meant to be they will work themselves out. He's got to realize that the world is changing, that's his job not yours...
SilkRose Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 (edited) So I'm in this new relationship, and I gotta say things have been running pretty smoothly. The two of us are already pretty intimate, and we both feel extremely close, and open already. But there's one problem I'm kinda worried about. Her parents. I haven't met them yet, but from what I heard about her dad... He's somewhat intimidating. He's not racist, but he doesn't want her to date a black guy, and she said he was pretty firm about that, and to make matters more stereotypical is that he's a cop lol. He also seems like the macho commando type of dad from what I heard. Eh, what should I do? I gotta meet him eventually, and I wanna be prepared for anything. I have a feeling I'd get the parental interrogation worse than most for the fact I'm african american. I dunno, kinda worried.... Advice? It sounds like you are your girlfriend have found love, which is great! You've heard rumours about her Dad, its sensible for you to be aware of these rumours and cautious but give him a chance, when you meet him your see and sense how he is as a person. Prejudice has a way of making itself known... Try to get to know him and best of luck. Keep us updated! Edited February 22, 2010 by SilkRose Corrected spelling
boogieboy Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Theres no reason for you to be afraid of him. If she wants to be with you, HE has to accept that...he has to accept his daughters decisions despite what he thinks. Then you just be the great guy you are, so he can know his opinions are based on crap. You will change his mind if you treat his daughter right.
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