conehead Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 This is an update on the following threads: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t221964/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t221723/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t221434/ Basically, I met him mid-Janauary but decided I no longer wanted to see him anymore because I doubted whether he was over his ex, etc. He told me on Wednesday that he is over his ex (they dated only 2 months but the RS ended only 2 weeks before he met me, I think she dumped him eventhough he claims it's mutual). He told me that he thinks I'm incredible and that his feelings for me are real. He said I'm important to him and he'd love a RS with me, but said that if I had doubts that we can take things slow as well. I repeatedly refused him. I was quite sad past few days until today. For the first 2 weeks after I met him, I noticed he still would post stuff on his ex's facebook wall. Thus I pushed him away somewhat for the first 2 weeks and we didn't really get close until the last 2 weeks. He also stopped posting stuff on his exes for the last 2 weeks. He had told me on Wednesday that he dislikes his ex and can probably say mean things to her but he said he chooses just to forget it all. In my mind I'm thinking if thats the case, if he really dislikes her and feels as if she's wronged him, then why does he post these things on her fb?? (stuff like he 'likes' her status updates or tells her to keep with the writing). And for the first time in 3 weeks today, he posted on her wall that he likes one of her status updates. When I saw this, I was initially really angered. My last ex was dishonest to me, and I feel that perhaps this guy was dishonest as well and all those things he said how important I was to him on Wednesday basically all just went down the drain IMO. So the question is, is it safe to assume that everything he said on Wed to me was just BS and that he is in fact still into his ex? Is this decent proof that I made the right decision to stop seeing him? He also told me on Wed that he hopes we can at least try again in a few months time. But now I'm thinking this is out of the question as I highly doubt his honesty with me...
Author conehead Posted February 22, 2010 Author Posted February 22, 2010 Anyone? I feel awful right now. Definitely have this huge impatience and distrust for men.
torranceshipman Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Stop reading Facebook!! It;s making you obsess. Secondly - you 2 are just way too early in your dating phase to expect all the trappings of a stable, long term R. Keep dating but keep it light and see where it goes and give him a chance to show his true nature.
Author conehead Posted February 22, 2010 Author Posted February 22, 2010 Sometimes people take months to show their true nature. By then, I'd already be attached and hurt. To me, these are red flags?
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