mprettyshoes120 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 He texted me last night and said...im sorry, i dont think we should be together anymore, i dont feel the chemistry and i dont know what to do, maybe i just need some time but i dont know im sorry to text, but i cant stand seeing you hurt..i thought i at least tell you somehow....my head is still spinning, its still hard to believe it happened. I felt his distance, but I love him and wanted to try anything to work through it. He called me today to say hes just so confused right now, he wants me with all his heart to stay in his life but he doesnt feel an intimate connection with me right now. I have always tried my best to be so considerate and appreciative of him...and its hard to face rejection when I tried and wanted so much for this to work out. My eyes burn from crying so much, Im thinking about taking a personal day from work tomorrow, and I want so much to fast forward through all of this. He is coming by to see me after work, to give me a face to face type closure. I wrote him a letter telling him I understand and I only want him to be happy, even if it means leaving me. The letter is only because Im afraid I wont be able to utter the words when I see him.....i need help.
GrayClouds Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 (edited) He just trying hard not to be the bad guy but he already has moved on. I suspect he has his eye on someone else and wants to keep you around just in case. It is importatn that you take care of yourself. Read the following links and go NC, focus not yourself and getting stronger: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Sorry for you loss, it will get easier, good luck. Edited February 22, 2010 by GrayClouds
now_what Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 My ex never told me he didn't love me, but I asked him if he still loved me and he said he couldn't answer that question - this was after blowing off our 30th anniversary. I was so stunned, I had to take a personal day off to try to process this. I agree with GrayClouds, he has probably moved on. My ex moved out a couple of weeks after his declaration that he couldn't say he loved me. He had already started seeing someone else, but he did say he didn't hate me. No wait a minute, he emailed, he wouldn't talk to me. It does hurt, rejection just hurts like hell and there's not much you can do about it. Your whole world is thrown for a loop, you just have to try to hang on. Be strong, don't beg him to stay. If someone is not sure, you really can't convince them. I asked my ex one time to come back and try to work on our marriage. He said no, he was happy in his current situation. I did not ask again. Please be good to yourself, you will get through this.
LBCBADBOY Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 It is always the one you love and care for the most whom always end up hurting you the most. It does not make it any easier if you talk to him. He will heal and you will hurt even more. Go NC and stay NC. Let him come to you not the other way around.
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