Johnootes Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Hello everyone. I have been lurking here for a few months now and I have finally decided its time to post. I want to start out by saying that this site rocks and reading the posts here has helped me through a very difficult time. I want to especially say that No Foolin's "guide for the long walk", bananaboat11's "when you are the dumpee" and "To All dumpees", and CaliGuy's "guide to second chances" have been particularly helpful. I fell very hard for my stbxw. She was the love of my life. I adored her. We attempted to blend a family and it didn't work out. She has a 17 year old daughter and a seven year old daughter. I have twin 17 year old daughters living at home. The girls were friends before we moved in together but things changed quickly after they moved in. My girls and her teen daughter got to the point where they didn't speak. This was a source of stress in our marriage. In November my wife told me she just wasn't happy and that no one in the house is happy and she was moving out and getting her own house. She started spending nights away from our house. I eventually found out she had been staying at a "friend's" house (another man's). She started staying at his house more and more and staying at mine less. Her excuse was that she was waiting for the house she has a short sale bid on to go through and in the meantime she just cant handle the stress of staying at my house. I finally told her enough was enough and to take the rest of her things and get out. The ironic twist to the story is that her teenage daughter doesn't want to move with her but chooses to stay with me and my twins. I have been in LC with her since the beginning of Dec. and NC since two weeks ago. Her daughter being here makes it a little harder to maintain strict NC but I am willing to make the sacrifice for her. As it turns out this poor girl has had seven different father figures of the course of her short life. My stbxw has changed men that often. So, as my subject line says - I was at the end of my term. I have a lot more I could tell you but I want to keep this post short and readable. Thanks again to all you who offer support here. I am very grateful.
GrayClouds Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 This women is wrecking ball, sorry you got in her way. If she can be so selfish towards her daughter I pity anyone who tries to get close to her. I wish you luck, be strong and take care of the children.
dazzle22 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I hope this will not make you bitter towards other women and the possibility of a better relationship with someone else.
Author Johnootes Posted February 22, 2010 Author Posted February 22, 2010 GC you are spot on. Wrecking ball indeed. Other names - scalp collector, perpetual nester. She has serious issues that just weren't clearly apparent to me with the love goggles I had on. She will most likely never be happy for long. Every three years she has broke up with one guy and like a monkey swinging from branch to branch has found another poor sucker. She's a very attractive woman and she said the most wonderful things to me. Well, I expect that in a few years or less, this new guy will be in the same spot I am now. Dazzle - I do need to work on my choices. I question my judgment. I know I am a sucker for a pretty woman. I do fear that I will have a hard time trusting myself to make good decisions.
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