8 Months of Love to broke up in less than 10 Days (With No Cheating!)……Read On

[DirayofaLovedMan]

Thanks for reading my story! I have read a few pages from others on this site and found the information was very uplifting and sometimes gut checking!

 

Please note that she sought me out and pushed the relationship at first. Then it took off from there…..

 

My Story, my love and I was dating for a good 8 months before the trouble hit. See, she was going through a divorce and I had prior experience in this department as I was a bad boy once(Long Story but not here today). The fact that I had wanted to see her get through the divorce without me applying pressure was my reason not telling her that I loved her. We spent the last 8 months like the never In my life, we had so much fun I would have not know we had 8 months had she not told me. We talked, she text me a lot I didn't reply with texts but with phone calls. We seen a lot of moves played pool, did the family thing, I mean we did a lot together. She was my best GF ever. Then about 3 weeks ago she asked me if she was divorced would I love her? I said "It is unfair to you that I answer that question, at this time I cannot answer that question." She was pissed after that! Yes, she was telling me for the past few months that she loved me. After being hurt in my prior divorce which was about 1 year earlier, I felt it but was reserved about telling her. My gut said just wait to see how this divorce works out. She really had a bad marriage and I could feel her frustrations. I wanted to be with her but just wanted to wait just a little bit longer before I told her. Then, it hit. One night doing home work (Quiz at that) she called me and wanted to talk. I said give me a few minutes and I will call you back. I gotta get this quiz done. Well, a few minutes later I get this barrage of texts telling me more or less I don't love her and she needed a break to sort things out. WOW! Was that a hit to me. Well, I was like any other person in love, I went to see her, broke my rules about telling I loved her, wrote texts the whole nine yards. We had some talks but she was hurt, hurt bad. One thing I notice is that she kept saying was not right now…..for example would say things like: I am not ready for this right now, or why don't you just let me go or let it go. She would not say shes done or its over. She just said she needed some time to think.

 

She asked for a break and I changed from not telling her I loved her to telling her I loved her. She felt uncomfortable with me changing my mind about having kids, army, pets and church. Confession, I am going to school and have two kids and she has three. I spent a long time in the military and was out now with not much income(Prior to Meeting her). Kids were not on my mind at the time. I told her that I wanted kids at the age of 40 (34 now). She said she could not wait that long. Pets, I'm just not in to pets, but now thinking about who the hell cares give me my girl back right! Army - I was frustrated about my low income and often made comments about me going back in. I didn't really want to as my daughter and I talked about me not going back to war. My daughters worried I would be killed. Church was a thing to as we go to different churches she is Baptist and I am Christian. Once again, I feel if I love someone then I am not going to just cut them off due to their not being in the same church.

 

Time has moved forward and I am really in love with this girl. We have talked off and on over the past week and she return my calls if I leave a message. It has been 2 days of NC. 2 Days of pure hell! I am working on the 30 days of NC. I have no prior success of not every contacting any one for 30 days on purpose. Now, here is a twist about the success I did have. My other story with a very good ex of my. I dated her almost 6 years ago and she still loves me and she even married recently! I lost contact due to me going through a divorce and we are still really good friends. We both moved on but she really respects me and I the same.

 

My question here is that how can one love you and then drop you like your hot all of a sudden? She have made it very clear that no other guy is involved and she wishes I not call her a liar. Her past record with me clearly agrees with no lying.

 

If you were a female and you had some really great times with a guy and you loved him and this story happened to you what would you do? Would you get back with him?

 

Please feel free to send feedback.

[LucreziaBorgia]

I don't know that it was sudden. It never really is. When someone is checking out of a relationship, it takes a couple of months or more of emotional 'winding down' before they are ready to end things. It is likely that the more she got into the relationship, the more she realized that it just wasn't what she wanted after all. It usually takes about six months for that to happen. When the person reaches that point, and infatuation dies - it takes one of two paths: the infatuation turns to love and begins to form deep bonds, or it simply ends. I think she probably fought against that internal ending process for a while, but in the end realized that her heart was no longer in it. A lot of times, there is no 'reason' why it happens, and it is not the fault of the other person. Sometimes you just realize that it isn't meant to be, and that sounds like the case with her. Perhaps this relationship was an escape from the divorce process, and she is realizing that just now.

 

At best, just lay back and give her the space she needs. When a person asks for space, and they don't get it voluntarily, they will make space forcibly.

 

There is no way to say which way this will go. At this point, you will want to take your life off of hold and do the things you want to do for you and your family.

[DirayofaLovedMan]

Thanks! I will post what happens next.