Being ignored :(

[lunar_rabbit]

I wasn't entirely sure which forum to put this in, so mods, feel free to move it if this is the wrong one

 

So. I'm in a sort of relationship with a guy. According to him, we're "exclusive", but he doesn't treat me like his girlfriend - I'm thinking probably because he has no faith in LDRs.

 

Anyway, we got involved in October last year. He came to my country to visit me this Thursday, and we met briefly before he went to hang out with other friends he knows here. Everything seemed fine, apart from the fact he didn't kiss me at all, not even a good night kiss. But I just put that down to nerves at the time - he seemed a little affectionate/touchy-feely otherwise, and usually it's me that instigates kissing anyway, so it didn't worry me too much.

 

I didn't hear from him again until Friday, when he sent me just one text saying he'd gotten lost on the way back to the house he was staying at after we said good night. I replied saying I was sorry about it, and asking if he could let me know when and where we were meeting the next day (he'd promised to spend the whole day just me and him on Saturday).

 

I didn't receive any replies to those texts. Or to the subsequent 7 texts I sent the next day. He never replied, never turned up to meet me.

 

In desperation, I phoned his number and it rang through to voicemail. The next three or four times I tried it, it didn't even go to voicemail, it just hung up. I think his phone was rejecting my calls?

 

I spent the whole day in tears. I hadn't seen him in months, I bought tickets to a classical concert I wanted to take him to...and he just vanished.

 

I still haven't heard anything. I haven't texted him today, but I tried to call once, and it was still cutting me off.

 

He said he was coming here to see me and hang out with me, with a view to making things more regular between us, but he's going home tomorrow morning, and I haven't had chance to be with him at all! What a disaster

 

I guess I know this means he's decided he doesn't want to be with me anymore. I'm just so confused because nothing in his behaviour indicated this was going to happen - we were getting along wonderfully just a week ago, and everything seemed OK on Thursday :/

 

So, any thoughts? :<

[DustySaltus]

I'm sorry about your situation.

 

The truth is that his visit had little to do with you and a lot to do with visiting his friends. He seems like he was trying to fit you into his schedule. Then he's intentionally avoiding your calls.

 

He's a weak communicator and overall weak person. I mean he should at least give you the decency to let you know what is going on....no matter what it is.

 

There's only one way to deal with a guy like this. Cut off all communication. Read the link in my signature.

 

You can't let someone treat you as an option when they should be treating you as a priority. He took you for granted....let him think about that for the next 1000 years while you move on with your life....good luck.

[lunar_rabbit]

I guess I knew this all along. He hasn't been treating me well at all, even before this - ignoring me on Valentine's Day (this year he apparently didn't believe in it, but last year he was sending anonymous cards to all his exes...), missing our one (and only) webcam date, not saying more than a few words at a time to me for weeks because he *assumed* I was "in a huff", then randomly texting me saying he'd been busy going out and playing Star Trek Online (umm, thanks?). The list goes on, and it's getting ridiculous. I'm tired of having to ask for apologies for all these things :/

 

I'll check out your link. It's only been one day since this mess, but I'm way past being interested in excuses and "I'll make it up to you"s -___-; At the very least, I'm going to wait for him to offer me an apology by himself. I'm not chasing after it this time, I've done nothing wrong here.