sean1 Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 hey guys! IF YOUR THINKING ON BRAKING N.C THEN READ!! well been a month and a half now. god feels like forever right basically. heres the end of my story.for those who read my other posts its been a shakey ride. but this week realy the worst of them all i broke n.c and got talking agen. things were gr8 we were both acting like nothing had actually happened. (acting being the key word) basically she agreed to meet u with me. after long chats on texts it sounded like she wanted to get back with me. saying stuff like...if you would of surprised me on val day then i would of changed my mind however its my bday soon. and also stuff like i do believe you have learnt from the mistakes and would love to have you back as the new you! so we met...wow did it all just go downhill! guys you need to understand that women make up there own choices. she bascially said to me after about an hour or 2 of chatting. "i got carried away in thoughts. but thats all they was. i never meant tolead you on. but some things you said made me think. but in reality we aint going to work. if it didnt work the first time. it wont work again. yes we could try and probably spend a long time together. but i dont see me being with you all my life. and you deserve better. i cannot love you like you love me. its just not fair. you need to let go and move on. ill give you all the space you need." ^^ felt like my heart had just been pulled out and she had stabbed it with a dagger 40,000 times. lesson learnt. dont brake n.c whatsoever! if you do it doesnt matter whats said...basically it will always be the same outcome. you have to respect that thierfeelings have changed. its them that have to overcome these not you. i changed her mind a few times...from things shed said so i had lots of hope...however when it all comes to that point of do i give them a second chance...its only their thoughts and feelings. you cant convince them. its all in their mind and head. so im moving on now. 100% letting go. really dont waste your time convincing someone to love you. why should you chase something your not going to get? you can find somebody else that will love you! without you needing to go through all this! no changing no convincing...itl just happen! please feel free to comment! and yes i do stil miss her. but im human i cant just lose feelings in an instant. ive asked for another month then i think i will be friends with her. just friends nothing more. i cant be doing with heartbrake again!
kickintheaz Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 "i got carried away in thoughts. but thats all they was. i never meant tolead you on. but some things you said made me think. but in reality we aint going to work. if it didnt work the first time. it wont work again. yes we could try and probably spend a long time together. but i dont see me being with you all my life. and you deserve better. i cannot love you like you love me. its just not fair. you need to let go and move on. ill give you all the space you need." is there a script that our exes all read from?? Friend, you've learnt a valuable lesson and I commend your understanding of the situation, took me near a year to get to that point in my thinking.. it sucks, its a pain in the az, but you'll heal and move on.. I guess like we all will.... And you can remember, you did what you could to help her try change her mind/feelings, you can't look back and think 'what if I did....' and as you say, there was nothing you could do in the end, she has to come to the realisation.. loving and losing are part of life and now you've had a heck of a time with it then deffo keep those lessons to mind, I think the one thing I've learned through all this is from Day 1 after the 'we need to talk' moment then its NC and nothing else... life is too dam short to be chasing someone who may like the chase, but doesn't want to be caught. and my last 2 cents.. you say a month and then you can be friends.. I'm not sure putting a timeframe on it is a good thing... I think it may be possible to be friends, and there are plenty of posts about that, but I don't think one can categorically say that the feelings will be gone in x no of days.. take your time and let life take its course.. and then again, ya may wake up one day and realise ya don't want to be friends with her.. but thats ok too! take care Sean.. and keep looking to the future!
Author sean1 Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 and my last 2 cents.. you say a month and then you can be friends.. I'm not sure putting a timeframe on it is a good thing... I think it may be possible to be friends, and there are plenty of posts about that, but I don't think one can categorically say that the feelings will be gone in x no of days.. take your time and let life take its course.. and then again, ya may wake up one day and realise ya don't want to be friends with her.. but thats ok too! ahhh now this is so very true....i spose i need to make sure im 100% over everything before talking again and even then i should ask myself what good would come from talking to her?. otherwise its a drop to square 1 again! thanks for the reply! means alot. i hope other people will read this thread and realise that no matter how hard you try you cant change anything! just n.c their ass and move on!
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