civciv Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 I'm actually not new to reading here, just to posting, but here's a little background on myself and my beautiful Turkish fella... I met Sedat online several months ago and we've recently moved from a long distance friendship to a long distance relationship. I honestly couldn't say when it happened, it just sort of did. lol. I've applied for my passport and have plans to visit him over spring break in about a month. He speaks excellent English and is teaching me Turkish because I want to learn his language. I've spoken with his mother on webcam/voice chats and she adores me. She's so sweet! But when I told my mother about Sedat and my plans to go visit him, she was very unsupportive. I'm not sure how to go about explaining to her just how much he means to me. I'm very close with my family, and even though I still plan on going to visit Sedat no matter what, I would feel relieved if I had their support and well wishes. I know that my mother is just being a good and concerned mother, but I really want to share this part of my life with her. So, my question for those of you that have travelled great distances to meet your partner is this: how did you explain to your families? Were they unsupportive at first? Did/have they warmed up to your SO?
Tropic Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 How old are you? My mother was nervous. She was worried and scared, but I took precautions. . . meeting him in a public place, calling home when I arrived there and after meeting with him, and so on. Try to reassure her. Any way she can see him on webcam? Make sure you take precautions and that she is aware of those.
Sadgati Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 How old are you? My mother was nervous. She was worried and scared, but I took precautions. . . meeting him in a public place, calling home when I arrived there and after meeting with him, and so on. Try to reassure her. Any way she can see him on webcam? Make sure you take precautions and that she is aware of those. Is there any way you can take someone along with you for your first visit? It would make your family feel more secure and I can certainly understand their concern. I always believe it is safer for the girl if the male is the one who makes the first time visit to the girl's country rather than the other way around because sadly, and frankly, it is safer for a male than a female in most instances.
nowomanocry Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 won't be my last either I gather lol... I read a lot of topics here and really feel like I'm home, and thanks for those who have thought of creating such a wonderful site... CivCiv > as for my reply to you,,, I'm a follower of my heart. Had a wonderful relationship with an English gal... Met on the net, chatted for about 3-4 months she was breaking up from a relationship, (not because of me it started before me because of her ex's mistreatment of her and kids etc) She was already discussing it with her mates when I met her and said hello Anyway, when she said let's meet, didn't think a single moment, grabbed the ticket and flew from Turkey (I'm Turkish) to Spain she was there with parents (in a village which you cant even get there without hiring a car) I changed to planes , hired a private car and took me 12 h to get there... and we spent a week of heaven there together... Now? She dumped me a week before Vals day and while I am trying to save my dad who had a brain emboly a couple of weeks from now Anyway, hope all works out the way you want it to be. Good luck!
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