DeniseAnn Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Hi Everyone, Well - the title really says it all. I am totally, utterly and completely unlucky in love and I am not sure why. I am 42 years old and divorced and prior to my divorce I had a few relationships but nothing too steady or solid. My longest relationship was my marriage and we were together for approx. 6.5 years. I consider myself fairly attractive (and have gotten good feedback on my looks), and intelligent with a decent body. I mean I could lose a few pounds around the middle, but hey. I am middle aged. lol. So, I guess what I am wondering is WHY? Has it just not happened yet? Am I perhaps way too needy and anxious? Or are some people just meant to remain single? Also, I must add that I am a pretty independent woman and that may be one of the reasons. I am not the demure, helpless female type at all. So, I dunno. But surely, there must be ONE guy out there who likes a strong person?
Author DeniseAnn Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 Hi Noone answered so hopefully this will go to the front of the line. Thanks.
Author DeniseAnn Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 Hi Can someone please respond? Thanks Denise
Ninita Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Hard to answer without knowing you. Especially because I'm having the same problem at the moment. I'd say in my case it's been lack of social opportunities. I don't know if with you too. Maybe try to meet people in new ways? I don't think it's something that just "happens", I think you need to make it happen.
Author DeniseAnn Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 Thanks for your reply Ninita. What is your story?
FreeNow Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 So, I guess what I am wondering is WHY? Has it just not happened yet? Am I perhaps way too needy and anxious? Or are some people just meant to remain single? Hi DeniseAnn. I don't think anyone was 'meant' to remain single anymore than I think anyone was 'meant' to be in a relationship. Often times it is more coincidental than that. Are you keeping your visibility up? I.e. In places where guys you would like to date are. Are you sending out non-verbal signals (body language, clothes, etc) that you are approachable and available for dating? If you have been doing these things for a while then perhaps you might want to choose different fishing spots for a while and see if you have better luck. Also, what do your friends that see you in person give as opinions on why you haven't yet had success?
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