Cinderella7 Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 I've been dating a great guy the last few weeks. He's pretty much everything I'm looking for and he seems to feel the same way about me. He's very confident and has initiated everything the relationship thus far (asked me out, plans every date, calls/texts often). He seems very interested in me and keeping the relationship going. The only thing I'm a little confused by is that we haven't done more than kiss yet (and we're not talking making out, we're talking basic kisses here). I'm a little confused by this. We've spent a fair amount of time together and he hasn't tried anything beyond kissing, even though there's been a fair amount of opportunity. We'll hold hands/cuddle/etc., but nothing beyond that. I'm not exactly sure what to make of this. On one hand, I really like it, because he's investing a lot of time in getting to know me as a person, without the physical stuff interfering yet. The waiting is excruciating but exciting. On the other hand, I'm really starting to fall for this guy. I'm starting to wonder if he's attracted to me. Plus I'm afraid I'll get even more emotionally involved, only to find we're not sexually compatible down the road. Any advice?
zebracolors Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 I think if you over analyze it, you may start to come up with reasons not to continue. He sounds like a great guy, I would say just let it play out as it will, and decide what you really want, then maybe try slipping in some signals that you'd want more or something like that.
Kristine Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Well he could have sexual problems, a guy I dated did and I thought he was being super respectful. He spent the night and I said I was NOT ready for sex and he slept in a different room. I thought he wasn't into me but he turned out to be diabetic and suffering from complications of it (E.D. = eractile disfunction ? sp).
Devil Inside Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Why don't you make the first move and see what happens? I think it may answer some questions for you.
sagetalk Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Any advice? Sure, you're thinking like a dummy. Start thinking like a sage women . This guy sounds like a cool guy to me, don't be an air head and blow this due to you're neediness to get feeled up early on.
Author Cinderella7 Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 Sure, you're thinking like a dummy. Start thinking like a sage women . This guy sounds like a cool guy to me, don't be an air head and blow this due to you're neediness to get feeled up early on. You're right. I'm going to stop overanalyzing and try to start going with the flow. He's a great guy and I don't want to mess anything up between us.
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