xpaperxcutx Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 I'm currently seeing a 25 year old guy. He's nice to the point of opening doors for me and taking me out to eat all the time. I feel really embarrassed by his hospitality and his honesty about treating girls with respect. He doesn't try to cross boundaries with me. I can't help but feel a little out of sorts when I'm around him. I get uncomfortable sometimes to the point where I have to think before I speak out loud my thoughts. We're not exclusive but we had a conversation where we made small talks about whether I would get jealous of one person was seeing another. My answer was no, especially with the absence of " exclusivity". He's a pretty attractive guy, with intense eyes that I can't help but feel like he's staring right into me. He has a nice sense of humor, and likes to ask me questions instead of coming to conclusions about my character. The one part that surprises me is that even after we had sex the " first date" ( his words not mine) he still wanted to see me again. I wonder what he sees in me aside from the fact that I'm very open sexually and whatnot. Don't know where this is going but hopefully I won't get drama. The point is I can almost imagine myself getting bored after 3-4 more " dates". I don't want to hurt this guy.
alphamale Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 I don't want to hurt this guy. you will hurt him xpxcx
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 you will hurt him xpxcx A, it's a possibility. Of course he did ask me what I had wanted from a guy, a relationship or FWB. I said I didn't know, especially since I'm not emotionally available for an R and FWB has become a waste of my time. I didn't really ask him what he wanted but he told me his ex broke up with him after a 2 year relationship. So I can assume any type of exclusivity is out at this point. For some reason that made me felt relief at knowing he's emotionally unavailable. Yet, and this is the confusing part, he acts like he wouldn't mind " dating" me, especially calling our first meeting a " date" and making plans to want to see more of me ( " you can teach me mandarin; we can go out to eat vegetarian food ( I'm a vegetarian); you can teach me salsa.... etc").
alphamale Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Yet, and this is the confusing part, he acts like he wouldn't mind " dating" me, especially calling our first meeting a " date" and making plans to want to see more of me ( " you can teach me mandarin; we can go out to eat vegetarian food ( I'm a vegetarian); you can teach me salsa.... etc"). i hate when people start making "plans" too early on
littlewhiterose Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 i hate when people start making "plans" too early on I agree. It's like there's a void they're subconsciously trying to fill.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 I agree. It's like there's a void they're subconsciously trying to fill. I noticed. I can't help but get the feeling like he was trying too hard to please. If he can tone down the " need" to have to get on my good side all the time, then maybe I'll be less uncomfortable.
hats Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Don't know where this is going but hopefully I will get drama. FYP You're not looking for a relationship and you're not looking for FWB. So what's the point of dating him at all?
skydiveaddict Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 I noticed. I can't help but get the feeling like he was trying too hard to please. If he can tone down the " need" to have to get on my good side all the time, then maybe I'll be less uncomfortable. He has "nice guy" syndrome. PM me , I can give you some good links/resources.
Awesome Username Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 You two imply do not seem like you are on the same page. If you DO se no future with him, let him know sooner than later. It's better that he knows.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 FYP You're not looking for a relationship and you're not looking for FWB. So what's the point of dating him at all? I'm not looking for drama. I have to go back and look at my opening thread to make sure there aren't any typos. The thing was we were meeting as friends, yet what some people see as " dating" I see as hangout. Maybe it's semantics, but I will agree it was somewhat of a semi- date. I'm not looking for a relationship, but will that hinder me from dating? Not really. I don't date for the sake of ending up in a relationship, most of the time that won't happen anyways. However, I'm not indisposed to whatever happens, I merely said I am " emotionally unavailable" ( currently). I have yet to meet someone that will make me want to COMMIT. I'm always open to meeting new people and making new friends. The point is, there are is no exclusivity to speak of at this moment since it's still so early on. Therefore to force myself to think about 6 months from now is pointless.
sagetalk Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 If this relationship were an exam grade I'd give it an F. See you next semester, here's the drop sheet .
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