parkeruk1 Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 (edited) i am a gay man of 46, my partner is 27. we met 7 years ago and have done so much together, had a great time travelling the world, getting a flat together etc. my partner is romainian and we went through a back breaking process of getting him a visa to stay in uk and finally we decided on civil partnership 3 years ago so he could become british which he now is as of last september. thats the background. last weekend he said we have to separate as he feels his love towards me has changed, like a best friend, he still loves me but differently, he then told me he had a new boyfriend of two weeks. the last year or so we have not realy had sex of any kind, i was happy enough with that just be be with him we have grown so intertwined with our life that the bond between us is very strong. i know his family and have visted them over there for a holiday. chat with his mother regularly on the net (they dont know we are a couple though neither of us are "out") while i was away for two weeks on business, recently i missed him but not as much as i thought, i missed his hugs really i am an affectionate person. we were chatting today and could it be that my feelings have changed towards him ? are we becoming like brothers , is this possible. when you hold someone you love be it parents siblings or whatever , if it is strong i think you can feel it. i get that with him. im not really jealous about the new bf but concerned for him that he is taking this on while he has important university work, not the best time. we are obviously still civil partners but i am confused ,. has anyone else had this kind of experience? ? i still love him dearly and want hugs from him and for him to be there for me as he has always done but i dont think about sex with him just my love for him. Edited February 20, 2010 by parkeruk1
Ronni_W Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 parker, It sounds as if perhaps feelings have changed on BOTH sides, from romantic-passionate love to non-sexual (but also deep) love. That happens when a relationship has run its natural course, yes. If you two can remain friendly and amicable, more power to you. Sending hugs and good wishes.
Brightmoon Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 parker, It sounds as if perhaps feelings have changed on BOTH sides, from romantic-passionate love to non-sexual (but also deep) love. That happens when a relationship has run its natural course, yes. If you two can remain friendly and amicable, more power to you. Sending hugs and good wishes. Ditto.... could not have put it better.
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