durr Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 Do you think it's ever a good idea to date someone who has been a really good friend for the past 5 years? I met this girl the very first day of college and we have been really good friends ever since. We hooked up a couple times (no actual sex though). Well she was kinda weird about it after the first time it happened. She didn't talk to me for about a week. When I finally saw her she said she thought it was a bad idea that that happened. The thought had been crossing my mind about trying to date her but that shut that down pretty quick and I never really thought about it again. Well a couple weeks ago we were out together. I could see her kind of giving me these looks (you know the looks) so I just said what's up. That opened up a whole can of worms and she basically told me that she wanted to date me and that she has wanted me to come after her for a long time. There was more to the conversation than than but that's the gist of it. I know you can't really give me advice on whether or not to date this girl but like I asked what do you think of dating someone who has been a really good friend fo yours for many years.
littlebittle Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 You guys know each other really well, and you already know you like each other, so maybe this would allow you to grow into something even deeper and more fulfilling. I ended up dating my best friend a few years ago. We had known each other for 3 years, and feelings began to develop on his part. I agreed to try a relationship, and we dated for almost 2 years and had some really great times together. Unfortunately, our breakup was also the end of our friendship. On the other hand, I knew two people who had been friends for years, and they would go back and forth liking each other, but nothing ever happened. Finally they decided to try to date. That was 10 years ago, and they're married now. You have the same risk of getting hurt as you would dating a stranger. You have to keep in mind that the friendship you have now will change, and you could even lose it someday. But maybe it could become something better. It's up to you to decide if it's worth it to try.
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