glamgurl Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 Do you delete an ex from your phone, facebook, myspace, etc?? Just curious. And if they don't is that saying something or not? What's your opinions???
GrayClouds Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 Do you delete an ex from your phone, facebook, myspace, etc?? Just curious. And if they don't is that saying something or not? What's your opinions??? If your trying to move on and heal, going no contact is one of the best ways. By doing a compete delate is help remove temtation of picking at the wound and return to bleeding. If they dont it could be that they want to keep you on the hook incase their great new life does not material (Weee you get to be their second choice), they want to feed their ego hoping you are pining or checking on them, or that want to put you through more pain. Fact is though it does not maktter what they do, keep the focus on you and your life.
bananaboat11 Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 Do you delete an ex from your phone, facebook, myspace, etc?? Just curious. And if they don't is that saying something or not? What's your opinions??? I did. they're an ex. unless they come back (and you're the dumpee)... it shouldn't matter to you. they clearly don't want you in their life. why should you want them? I know it hurts at first... but when you realize, "wait a minute... I did such and such wrong...". work on fixing THOSE things... but don't change who you are because THEY didn't like YOU. You should love you. So that someone equally as good or better comes along and loves you for you.. even beyond the honeymoon stage. And you'll be able to have fixed those things you did do wrong in your next relationship... for the meantime.. if they're gone... don't hold onto them. it'll delay the healing process. if you CAN'T do the friends thing.. ie, you can imagine them kissing someone else and it kills you a little inside... -delete phone number -delete internet connections... AIM, FB, MS, etc, etc.. -delete pictures -get rid of memorabilia of her/him yadayadayadayada... don't long for them... don't miss them... grieve. cry. it'll do you good. and then move on. rebuild yourself. rebuild who you are. there are BILLIONS of people in this world be it... smart or dumb, hot or ugly, sexy or cute, tall or short, fat or thin, fit or out of shape, brunette, redhead or blonde, emo or contemporary... etc,etc... be a better you for the next amazing person to come into your life. by chasing after the one who dumped you (unless they initiate contact first and verbally and physically show they WANT YOU BACK) you will push them FURTHER away and only end up hurting oyurself over and over again...
LBCBADBOY Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 That is so true. I didn't take heed to anyone here on LS advices and thought that my situation is different than others...9 months later I am hurt all over again and starting from day 1.
richardcruz Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 I personally didn't just delete her as my FB friend, I just deleted my whole account. I had mutual friends on FB and it was just making me feel worse when I would read their feed and see my exes posts. Sure I had friends that I liked and that I wanted to keep in contact with, but there comes a point where you have to decide what's more important. I didn't want to be spending by day creating scenarios in my head of what she is doing based on her friends FB feed. I'd rather be free from that and have a clear, focused mind. Once I heal completely (weeks, months, one year who knows) then I can start another account. Until then I'm happy just the way it is right now. I'd say if you have an account, delete it all together. It's worked for me. I also put all of our pics on a flash drive and put it in a box in my garage along with the rest of the things that remind me of her. I've put big things as well as small things in the box. If there is any kind of memory, even if its a small insignificant, in the box goes. This has also helped.
NoneoftheAbove Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 I deleted her from everything facebook, msn, bbm etc. It helped me a lot in the long run, it makes you more stronger knowing that you are doing something better to move on with your life.
skydiveaddict Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 yes delete everything. Dont even consider your ex's actions. they are not relevant
Beolf Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 forget her right from the start of the end. don't do the mistake like i did and spill your guts in emails back and forth for 4 days, it doesn't change anything, it only makes it worse. if she left, she doesn't want you. lose contact, lose her numbers and all means of communication. throw everything she gave you in a box and hide it out of site. don't throw it away, because one day when the feeling is gone you can look back on the happy times and not feel a thing, except maybe a smile.
leoine Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 yes. DO NC. I am in the process of NC and it has helped a lot. Not completely over it yet... but it does help and meeting new ppl to replace all that contact helps a lot too to occupy your time and mind. It was hard in the beginning... put him on limited profile so stuff wouldn't come up on newsfeed, but in the end i was checking his profile out. SO then i removed him as a friend. The only contact detail i have of him is his email, no mobile numbers or anything. And he has my contact details, so if there is any reason at all for him to contact me he can. There's no excuse.
Tropic Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 (edited) I left him. He wanted us to remain friends, and came to my house several times unannounced. I felt sad for breaking up with him but I wanted NC and for it to be over, but it was difficult as he kept calling me. I changed my cellphone and home number. Several years afterwards he adds me on Facebook, I didn't accept him. He then calls asking me why I didn't accept him. . . I give in and accept him:rolleyes: A few months afterward I delete him again, he sends me another request. I change my phone number again and block him on FB. He opens another account and adds me again. . . deleted him eventually, he got a new gf and left me alone (after 6 years). Edited February 21, 2010 by Tropic
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