Ivan Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 (edited) I'm at lost right now and trying to deal with this in the best possible manner. For those that ended a relationship how did you dealt with it afterwards? It's almost as if my mind is telling me to think logic and go straight to NC while my heart is the opposite. Edited February 20, 2010 by Ivan
jb89 Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 That's what NC is. The polar opposite of what your heart is telling you to do. It's the best/only way I've found that you can start to move on.
Author Ivan Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 That's what NC is. The polar opposite of what your heart is telling you to do. It's the best/only way I've found that you can start to move on. Thank you for your input. I will keep that in mind though it's hard when there are still mix feelings. As we were talking on the phone, it felt as if I was talking to two different people at once. One moment she sounded apologetic, begging for a reconciliation and the next minute it all turned into accusations and anger over the phone to the point I got called all the hateful names in the dictionary. I'm confused at this point. Why the apology only to later be nasty?
orangelondon Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 She sounds confused. Maybe give her some space and she might change her mind. What were her reasons for wanting to break up?
DustySaltus Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Ivan, why did you break up? I've been in your spot before, i'm sorry.
Author Ivan Posted February 22, 2010 Author Posted February 22, 2010 (edited) She sounds confused. Maybe give her some space and she might change her mind. What were her reasons for wanting to break up?Even though I still love her and part of me wants her back, I can't. She has altered her personality greatly ever since we got engaged. Ivan, why did you break up? I've been in your spot before, i'm sorry.DustySaltus I broke up because she hit me again while drunk. In addition 4 dishes were thrown on the floor. Though it was only slapping (not a punch in the face like last time), I still felt assaulted. I believe that in a relationship there is no excuse to attack in any way someone you claimed to love. I have never lay a hand on her but neither should she. This wasn't self-defense at all and just because I don't believe in hitting back a woman doesn't give her the rights to place her hands on me. She can be very apologetic one minutes but angry the next minute, placing all the blame on me. What happened to the sweet woman I met long ago? The one that never came home drunk, use profanity along with yelling, hits or breaks dishes? I have never been attacked by anyone before. Even so I can't stop loving her. Is there something wrong with me? Edited February 22, 2010 by Ivan
Getting_stronger Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Wow there is nothing wrong with you!!!!! She clearly has some issues that only she can deal with. Go NC and in time she'll see how badly she treated you.
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