sleepwitroomie Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 ok just moved into a house with a good friend, ryan, and a girl i just met throuh work, di. we dont really know di. since day one at work i kinda felt a little connection. me and di spend a lot of time togeather, talk a lot. she is in here mid twenties and really isnt wanting to be in a realationship. not that i was looking for one. she one one hand wants to party and have a good time being single, doesnt want to get hurt again by a man. but on the other, when we spend time togeather she acts like she wants one. im a little confused with this. so we have gone out several times, the first few times very flirty and touchy feely when drunk. then one night we are both hammered and we make out and i end up in her bed, dont have sex. roommate thing stopped up. wake up in the morning and she says she blacked out. didnt really tell here we fooled around. so i spend a couple more nights with her in her room, cuddling. then the other nite she goes out with some girl friends, im in her bed sleeping. she wakes me up and we end up having sex a couple times that nite and then once in the am. thing really havent been weird with us, but i have still been sleeping in her room and we cuddle a little bit. we decided to not tell our other roomate, so we dont really talk about what happened. ever since that night i have kinda been going crazy thinking about her and what this is that happened, i kinda like this girl and wouldnt mind going out on a couple dates and seeing were it ends up, but she says she doesnt want to get involved in nething like this, but when we are alone she is very close and does things that a girl not looking for ne thing would do! Any ideas? Advice? or am i just being obsesive?
You'reasian Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 ok just moved into a house with a good friend, ryan, and a girl i just met throuh work, di. we dont really know di. since day one at work i kinda felt a little connection. me and di spend a lot of time togeather, talk a lot. she is in here mid twenties and really isnt wanting to be in a realationship. not that i was looking for one. she one one hand wants to party and have a good time being single, doesnt want to get hurt again by a man. but on the other, when we spend time togeather she acts like she wants one. im a little confused with this. so we have gone out several times, the first few times very flirty and touchy feely when drunk. then one night we are both hammered and we make out and i end up in her bed, dont have sex. roommate thing stopped up. wake up in the morning and she says she blacked out. didnt really tell here we fooled around. so i spend a couple more nights with her in her room, cuddling. then the other nite she goes out with some girl friends, im in her bed sleeping. she wakes me up and we end up having sex a couple times that nite and then once in the am. thing really havent been weird with us, but i have still been sleeping in her room and we cuddle a little bit. we decided to not tell our other roomate, so we dont really talk about what happened. ever since that night i have kinda been going crazy thinking about her and what this is that happened, i kinda like this girl and wouldnt mind going out on a couple dates and seeing were it ends up, but she says she doesnt want to get involved in nething like this, but when we are alone she is very close and does things that a girl not looking for ne thing would do! Any ideas? Advice? or am i just being obsesive? Bad idea to sleep with someone you work with.
Norville_Rogers Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 You are a In-House Booty Call to her.
amerikajin Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 So you live with and work with this girl? Hope it works out, 'cause if it doesn't, there's going to be drama. That said, I don't know if this is really destructive in the long-run, though. It is what it is. Be prepared mentally in case things don't really work out or get weird. Try not to take the relationship seriously, and be careful if you sense that she's beginning to take the relationship more seriously than you.
oneheart Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 I have expereince of sleeping with a room mate. It started out much like how you describe but oh my god it was the messiest upsetting expereince I can remember! And I have had several LTR's. There is no way that the other housemate won't be effected. Any issue you two have with them they will feel gagnged up upon. Plus it will end up in taking sides crap if things don't work out. I personally don't think it's fair on your other housemate - it WILL effect them, 3 is a crowd. They won't feel so relaxed or in neutral territory im the place that is HOME (very important scanctuary) and it's unfair to take that away from her without choice. You'd better speak to her if you intend to carry on sleeping with your other room mate. Be fair. The other problem I think is that you don't know her and you are diving in with no place to go to when things go wrong. No space, no other place to have YOUR space. If you want to continue and seriously want to respect this relationship (and your other housemate) with her then I would suggest you find another person to take over your room and find somewhere else to live. Then date her. I know it's REALLY not what you probably wanted ot hear... no one likes water poured over such a hot sexy fire. But... you asked for advice and this is mine. I sincerely wish you all the best!
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