I shouldn't have to bend over backwards

[Not the love ace]

This is kind of related to my other thread but felt it deserved its own thread.

 

The girl whom ruined my friendship with everyone else wanted me to not flirt with girls or not show any affection in front of her because of her feelings and because she's in love with me and it hurts her to see me flirting with other girls because "she's not over me" (we NEVER went out or had any romantic connection mind you). So, the dispute was over that and since I never adhered to her ways she bad mouthed me and maligned me to the rest of our social circle (who predominantly concurred with her because they are just trying to be a good friend).

 

I feel I don't have any obligation for her feelings nor do I feel I must "play nice" around when I am flirting with other girls and she happens to be there. I put up with her mess long enough and I feel she's lucky to even have somebody be very tolerant of her manipulative, childish, selfish ways. I tried watering down my ways around her and walked on egg shells. Now I do not care and did what ever I wanted.

 

Again, I just truly feel I don't need to bend over backwards to make her feel comfortable and she shouldn't act as if she has tabs on me. When she was around me, she made out with other boys and sex with them and did what she wanted and I never complained because I simply don't care. However, she can't expect to "have her cake and eat it too" (I hate that saying but I couldn't think of any other analogy).

 

Am I right or wrong? I feel like I am in the right here but I just want to get some reassurance since my other friends have taken her side.

[green_tea]

Yes, from what you've told of your side, you are in the right. She sounds like trouble, and if I was you I would just cut all ties with her, and the other friends. Any reasonable person can see that you've done nothing wrong. Good luck, and don't feel bad about losing those friends - they aren't worth it.