Silver_star Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 My breakup was over christmas. My ex dumped me as he has in the past only to come back to me 3-6weeks later. He came back this time and I wouldnt take him back. Although I am so used to talking to him that when he asked to hang out as friends I said okay...even though I was still mad at him. We talked and it was soo comfortable and I missed connecting with another human being the way we did (just talking) at the end of the night he tried to kiss me and I didnt feel it was right although he was my first love and he does give me butterflies still. We met up a few weeks after that and had been texting and we ended up fooling around but I wouldnt have sex with him. Not sure why I drew the line there, but it didnt feel right. So now he wants to "hang out" more, and I know I dont want a relationship with him but our chemistry is amazing together. I know I can just as easily find another guy but im not ready for a relaitonship and I dont want casual sex with a random stranger. I would rather casual sex be familliar, (we had amazing sex) but I feel like having sex with him would be a bad move considering our break up and would make me seem like i dont have any self respect, which i do. I dont know what my feelings are...I know I dont want a relationship with him anymore, but Im so drawn to him. I know this is complicated, but break-ups usually are. Any advice?
CarrieT Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 If you know you don't want a relationship with him any more, than go 100% complete NO CONTACT. Having sex and hanging out *is* backsliding and is not helping you (or him) move forward with your lives. If you aren't going to work towards being a couple, than fooling around and maintaining contact is nothing but detrimental.
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