SoVicious Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 Hey everyone, I think you all know my story. I was with my ex for 1.5 years and we broke up about 2 months ago. Well last night we had our class together at college(thank goodness its only once a week) and I had brought some of her old things that she asked for back, to class with me. I thought this would be the easiest way since I had to see her anyways. Well after class I gave her the stuff and I also gave her a book that I never had the chance to give to her. We looked thought it together and shared some laughs, and she invited me to go out to eat with her and her friend. Being the college kid that I am... I was hungry and she has a way of persuading me still. We walk across campus and share some laughs together, and arrive at the place to eat. While eating her friend leaves to get something and the conversation goes like this: Her: Yeah, so I am getting paid this Friday. Me: Okay... thats cool. So am I. (She finally got a job after not having one the whole time we were together) Her: Yeah Im making like 12 bucks an hour. Me: Great. Me: I thought at first you said you were getting laid this friday *laughs* Her: No, I got laid on tuesday. Me: Yeah, well its not that hard to get laid when you are a girl and your attractive, I think its harder not to use that power you have over men, so you dont look like a whore. Her: *no reply* She also tried to rub it in my face that she is moving out soon. I asked further who she is moving out with and she said her mom. I couldnt help but find it funny. Other than those two things the whole time we were there she was just talking about clubbing and getting drunk. Those are things she never did when we were together, and I also know that she smokes weed now also. I had heard enough after eating with her, and told her I was leaving. Her friend and her tried to get me to come with them to the dorm but i just refused and said I had other plans. My ex really tried to get me to go, seemed strange, but I just refused. I had never been so unattracted to her before. I asked an older co-worker about this as she has just been through a divorce and she told me that she did the same stuff after her marriage ended. That she only did those things to rebel and get her S/O's attention. What are your guys/girls opinions on this? Have you had an ex completely change who they were after breaking up with you?
USMCHokie Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 What are your guys/girls opinions on this? Have you had an ex completely change who they were after breaking up with you? Oftentimes these changes are just temporary phases where they need something different to avoid dealing with the breakup and their own issues. Fundamental changes in people don't happen that quickly or without a great deal of effort. It's easier to pretend to be someone else than it is to deal with yourself. I didn't stick around long enough to see whether my ex changed or not...it doesn't matter...she has to do what she has to do...it's her life that is no longer part of mine...
skydiveaddict Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 What are your guys/girls opinions on this? Have you had an ex completely change who they were after breaking up with you? Idk. If she breaks up with me, I'm down the road. And I don't look back. Do yourself a favor and quit hanging around w/her
starwolf242 Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 I'm told by friends that my ex is now really cocky and full of himself and that people who used to really like him when he was with me are now starting to dislike him. And these people were his friends not mine! It seems as though after a year of being really affectionate and talking to me every single day, he has easily just stopped talking to me and from the looks of things just stopped thinking about me. Seems as though he switched his feelings off. I really struggled with NC to begin with but it's been about 2 months since I last heard from him. And aside from 1 email from me a month ago asking him to get his stuff, I haven't tried to contact him either. I think people when they break up have a mild identity crisis because you are no longer me and him or me and her you're just you now. Dumpers seem to be much more party orientated and confident while dumpees become withdrawn and doubt themselves. Neither situation seems to be long lived. We'll get over our confidence set back and something will happen to calm them down too. But use her new personality to help you get over her. You miss the person she was not the person she is.
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