AAliberto Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 i just turned 18 last months and have been with the same girl for 10 months now. we love each other we know that even though we arnt together now she still says I'm her first love and always will be. But heres the thing it started out with a couple little fights that we really never talked out. she got mad about it n for the last week i tried really hard to sit down n talk about it like she wanted but all she would say was no. Then one day i told her i was gonna come over so we could talk about it n she dumped me. i was crushed but i said ok maybe we could talk sometime later. she said maybe in a week we coudl talk. So i gave her a week and then i still wasnt sure if it was to soon but i had found out she had been messing around on my facebook because she knows me so well she can guess my passwords. So i asked her about it n from there we started talkin again. I hung out with her all weekend because i got kicked out of my house at the time and her n her mom wanted me to stay there till i patched things up with my mom. All weekend it was weird because she would cuddle with me, kiss me all the time, hold my hand, tell me she loved me and that we would get back together, hell she even went as far to have sex with me again. Everything was going so good and for a moment i really thought there was hope. She wrote me a note saying how i promised her id never give up on her and she hoped i wasnt going to back out now. That she was just hurting over all of our problems and that it would take some time but we would b together again soon. She told me that she realsized it wasnt just my fault and that i takes 2 people to mess up a relationship. i really thought she ment everything in there. she called me by our pet names and fell asleep with me holding my hand every night. Then finally school came around again and i missed the 1st day cause i wasnt feeling good. i decided to go home and try to patch things up with my mom which i did. i drove themt o school and she gave me a kiss goodbye. Then after that day it was like we took 1 step forward to take 5 steps back. she was mean again, didnt want to text me, ignored me i didnt get it at all. So i had left some stuff over her house and i told her that i was gonna come over to pick it up. i went over and she was mean as could be. so i sat down and asked her what was wrong and why was she so mad at me now? she told me she hated me and that she never wanted to go back out with me again and never would.She even went to go as far as pinky promising on it all which is pretty importan to us. I old her if thats what she wanted that was fine but i just wanted to know why such a drastic change? the day before she had been telling me she loved me and wanted to grow up n get married an have kids with me and outta nowhere shes telling me im not good enough now. All she said was no for a while then she said that she thought about ti with her friends and they said i was no good so she just gaev up on me. Really though? i mean friends should be there for u like that but can a person really make such a drastic change in one day off of what 3 other people say? i changed for her i became almost a new person and told her i know what we had was stressful before but i didnt want that either. i wanted a happy relationship where we could trust one another. but for some reason she dosent believe me now when i say i want what we had over the weekend for good she thinks its only till i get her back. now shes talkin to one of her friends younger brother(one of the friends who i didnt get along with and told her she should leave me for good) and its really killen me. i know most of use are gonan tell me to move on and that true maybe i should but after reading everything i said dosent it seem like she kind of wants me back shes just afriad? i might be just saying this to make myself feel better but why would someone do all that if they didnt want to try. she told me she did but for some reason she changed in a day and i dont know what to do. at least gettin this out there an off my chest made me feel a little better. what do you guys think cause im lost?
sean1970 Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 Break this up into paragraphs... Cap first letters of sentences.
USMCHokie Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 Paragraphs are your friend... Make better passwords... She's f'in crazy... Paragraphs are your friend... Ummm, yes, it's probably best to move on as best you can...girls at that age are crazy, and emotionally fickle...as you said, they can be greatly influenced by their friends and societal pressures...it's certainly not impossible for them to flip flop every day for a week...one day she misses you and wants to be with you, the next day she can't stand to be in the same room as you...you want to avoid her...she doesn't know what she wants... Bottom line, you are still in high school...very few people (if any) are really capable of forming truly healthy and lasting relationships at such a young age...neither of you have matured to that level for such a strong and stable relationship (i.e. marriage)... Stay away from her...you can do better...and you will do better...
USMCHokie Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 Break this up into paragraphs... Cap first letters of sentences. Spelling and punctuation wouldn't hurt either...
Author AAliberto Posted February 19, 2010 Author Posted February 19, 2010 sorry i was just typing as fast as it could because it made me feel better to get everything off my chest. sorry about the punctuation and paragraphs and everything im just still kind of a mess. shes pretty crazy that's what everyone telling me even her mom told me she was when i was there that day when she gave me a hug and told me she hoped i would be back again. I know its best to stay away from her but me saying yea ill do that and actually doing it are two different things. I wish i could but i don't know how im gonna do it.
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