Chrono Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 Me and my Ex shared an odd relationship. When we met, she was getting over the stress of her previous ex almost lighting himself on fire over her. I laughed at this, just telling her she's not THAT pretty, and so started a friendship. We were good friends for about 4 months previous, until one day some kid asked her out, and for some reason i felt obligated to explain to her my feelings and did, and the next day i kissed her. She at first wanted to remain friends but suddenly had feelings back for me. Yet we never called it a relationship. We would never call each other our boyfriend/girlfriend, as we were bot hafraid of the label and what it would do to us. So we remained at a status greater then friends with benefits, but less then dating. This situation confused me. I started having feelings for another girl because I didn't feel as we were real. We kept sleeping together for some reason. She still had feelings, but if i asked she'd vehemently deny it. This angered me, because I felt I could have had feelings for her (and really did), but she'd rather not admit it, like she was ashamed. Fast forward about two years. I'm getting ready for College. She's heartbroken because she doesn't want to see me go. I feel for her, becaOnce I left for college, i lost my feelings for the other girl. I came back home on weekend and told her how i felt. She said she'd have to think because she got over me, but i clued her in that at the exact time she just told me she got over me, we just we're done coming back from a dinner alone and slept with each other afterward. So she obviously still had feelings. Yet she began treating me badly. She would ignore me and ditch me. Not return calls when I asked her. Started smoking weed, even though I asked her if she couldn't because I was dealing with various drug-related family problems, and couldn't take it. I was a nervous wreck due to these problems. And would just kinda go nuts if she made me angry and ditched me. She started lying about smoking and Iwould cry, because I thought I could trust her, because I just couldn't handle it, whether it was her life or not, if she cared about my feelings she'd try to not do it. Now to New Years Eve. We both had gotten drunk the night before (stupid, i know), and she was sick on New Years Eve. I promised to stay with her but she convinced me to go with my friends. It turns out she got up a half hour before midnight and ditched me to go smoke with her other friends (many who have been insulting me behind my back to her, and changing her opinion of me). I was devastated and she cried and apologized and we officially got back together. 3 weeks later, Winter break of college is over. Things seemed normal. Until one day (around the beginning of Feb), she suddenly gave me a conversation about how she couldn't take being wiht me anymore, and she didnt like me. I got angry with her as not three weeks ago she told me she loved me, and she lied. We got into a fight, she cried to her parents, but she kept flirting with me. I told her to stop it because i couldn't do it. She responded by telling me I was crazy and was just making up things. So we stopped talking. I went home one weekend for some errands, and i went to talk to her. She basically tried to blame everything on me due to my family problems and getting upset so much. I know this was stressful for her, but if she were truly my friend, not even my girlfriend, she could have stuck through it, or at least just told me she neededsome space. But she didn't. Right now we don't really speak. I called her the other day and she seemed so cold, and distant. And I think some other guy whos been after her is already on her case. She's giving him the same treatment she gave me, obviously flirting and hanging around, but not giving a real couple treatment. What's so confusing now, I don't know whether to talk to her anymore, or send her a birthday gift. She's still my best friend, but she hurt me incredibly awfully, because she not only broke up with me, but ditched me in a time I needed someone most. I almost sent her a birthday gift today, but decided against it. She doesn't deserve it. Thoughts on the situation...?
GrayClouds Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 Me and my Ex shared an odd relationship. When we met, she was getting over the stress of her previous ex almost lighting himself on fire over her. I laughed at this, just telling her she's not THAT pretty, and so started a friendship. We were good friends for about 4 months previous, until one day some kid asked her out, and for some reason i felt obligated to explain to her my feelings and did, and the next day i kissed her. She at first wanted to remain friends but suddenly had feelings back for me. Yet we never called it a relationship. We would never call each other our boyfriend/girlfriend, as we were bot hafraid of the label and what it would do to us. So we remained at a status greater then friends with benefits, but less then dating. This situation confused me. I started having feelings for another girl because I didn't feel as we were real. We kept sleeping together for some reason. She still had feelings, but if i asked she'd vehemently deny it. This angered me, because I felt I could have had feelings for her (and really did), but she'd rather not admit it, like she was ashamed. Fast forward about two years. I'm getting ready for College. She's heartbroken because she doesn't want to see me go. I feel for her, becaOnce I left for college, i lost my feelings for the other girl. I came back home on weekend and told her how i felt. She said she'd have to think because she got over me, but i clued her in that at the exact time she just told me she got over me, we just we're done coming back from a dinner alone and slept with each other afterward. So she obviously still had feelings. Yet she began treating me badly. She would ignore me and ditch me. Not return calls when I asked her. Started smoking weed, even though I asked her if she couldn't because I was dealing with various drug-related family problems, and couldn't take it. I was a nervous wreck due to these problems. And would just kinda go nuts if she made me angry and ditched me. She started lying about smoking and Iwould cry, because I thought I could trust her, because I just couldn't handle it, whether it was her life or not, if she cared about my feelings she'd try to not do it. Now to New Years Eve. We both had gotten drunk the night before (stupid, i know), and she was sick on New Years Eve. I promised to stay with her but she convinced me to go with my friends. It turns out she got up a half hour before midnight and ditched me to go smoke with her other friends (many who have been insulting me behind my back to her, and changing her opinion of me). I was devastated and she cried and apologized and we officially got back together. 3 weeks later, Winter break of college is over. Things seemed normal. Until one day (around the beginning of Feb), she suddenly gave me a conversation about how she couldn't take being wiht me anymore, and she didnt like me. I got angry with her as not three weeks ago she told me she loved me, and she lied. We got into a fight, she cried to her parents, but she kept flirting with me. I told her to stop it because i couldn't do it. She responded by telling me I was crazy and was just making up things. So we stopped talking. I went home one weekend for some errands, and i went to talk to her. She basically tried to blame everything on me due to my family problems and getting upset so much. I know this was stressful for her, but if she were truly my friend, not even my girlfriend, she could have stuck through it, or at least just told me she neededsome space. But she didn't. Right now we don't really speak. I called her the other day and she seemed so cold, and distant. And I think some other guy whos been after her is already on her case. She's giving him the same treatment she gave me, obviously flirting and hanging around, but not giving a real couple treatment. What's so confusing now, I don't know whether to talk to her anymore, or send her a birthday gift. She's still my best friend, but she hurt me incredibly awfully, because she not only broke up with me, but ditched me in a time I needed someone most. I almost sent her a birthday gift today, but decided against it. She doesn't deserve it. Thoughts on the situation...? Move on let her go. She playing game s with you and your feelings. Read the following: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Good luck
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