mimidarlin Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 So most of us are trying the 180 or NC. My husband says he needs more space or independence. I'm trying to respect that. I made one small request of him today and I can't believe he even had to think about it. I have a medical condition that has landed me in the emergency room twice and required hospitalization with surgery. (It's a disease of my reproductive organs.) Anyway, it causes severe pain. Intense pain. Pain so bad that he has made me pass out cold more than once. Fortunately I was around people when it happened. This last time I had a septic (infected) cyst. There would have been serious consequences if it ruptured. Most likely I would have died. Now, when this pain returns it sparks a deep level of fear and anxiety. I think most people would understand. I'm living alone now and I fear that it may cause me to pass out and I wouldn't be able to ask for help. I keep the phone by me at all times and sleep with the home and my cell by my bed. I know he wants space but I asked him if he could check on me. I didn't ask to have a long conversation. Just someone to say hey...how's is your pain. Hey...did you make it through the night alive? Do you need to go the hospital? He actually had to f****ng think about it! I do not have any family besides him in this area. This won't last forever either. It's just a critical time (a few days) where I might have to go the hospital. I'll try to go to the doctor for a check up but that will take a couple weeks. Unfreaking believable! Do I really want to be with a person who doesn't respond with of course I will check on you. I care about your safety.
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