I wanted to cheat on my boyfriend to get him back for what he did to me!!

[Winky25]

I have been with my boyfriend for 1 years and 4 months. We were engaged 4 months ago. I still have alot of doubts. He has never cheated on me but......

 

1. Before we start dating when we were just causually hanging out he was interested in one of my female friend. He even ask her to go out and have dinner together. (This friend now kept talking **** about us, how I am such an idiot that i am dating a guy who likes every girl he meet) Then, when we started seeing each other, i went on a 3 weeks vacation he was asking around and looking for dates (my friend told me this). When i came back from vacation he didn't ask me out. So i waited for a month and couldn't wait anymore. I asked him out.

 

2. When we start dating exclusively, he was still talking to his ex fiance. He cared so much about her but he said they will never be back together. his ex saids that she will do a plastic sugery on facebook then he called her and ask if she needs anything. Then he told me he called her and he saids "he is worry about her and hope everything is gonna be ok with her" They broke up for about 4 months and I though I was a rebound. SO I asked him to stop talking to her or i'll leave him. So he stop. He never talk to her.

 

3. One month into our dating, i invited him to my brother wedding, i was the bridemaids so i have to dance with the groom man for the first dance. So he asked one of my brother friends to dance with him. i was ok... then my brother friends told me the girl complains about him holding her so tight (like he was trying to get a cheap feel). I was SO PISSED off. I confront him and told him how i felt. Come on it's my brother wedding...my parents are there...i was so mad? Isn't it inappropriate? That's the first time he meet my parents....wtf?

 

4. Two months into our relationship. When we are chatting he called me Her name accidently. I got SO mad and hurt that I wanna break up with him but then we work things out and we were fine.

 

After the 4 incidents listed above...nothing major really bother me. He was very nice and caring to me. He treats me like a little princes....yet I still can't get over it. Even my friends said they can tell he love me alot. YET....I bring it up whenever i want and get angry at him. I can't get over the past how he hurt me so badly? So i think i should get him back by cheating on him with some other guys i find attractive.

 

What do you think?

[Crow9726]

I think you are insecure and immature and a drama queen.

 

Break up with him...since nothing you claim he is guilty of could justify your supposed intentions.

[Pleco]

You're a crazy b*tch.

 

Break up with him and spare him the drama.

[TaraMaiden]

I think you need to read your post as if it was from a complete stranger to you, and see how insecure, immature and puerile you really sound.

You need to communicate with your BF, not plan revenge.

That's ridiculous.

If you're going to jump down a guy's throat for every PERCEIVED or imagined wrong, goodness knows what you'd do if something really happened.....

This is a really dumb idea.

No...

Really Dumb.

Please - either discuss this with him in a mature way - or give the guy a break - and break up with him.

You really do need to address your jealousy/self esteem issues.

They're just yelling off the page, truly....

[Lizzie60]

I agree with the others... very immature and 'spoiled-bratty'...

 

to answer your question: should you 'cheat on my boyfriend to get him back for what he did to me!!'

 

I say yes... do it... if you want a solid relationship with him..

[Dexter Morgan]

What do you think?

 

I think you shouldn't lower yourself to his level.

 

If you cheat, even in revenge, you just become another one of those effin' worthless cheaters out there.

 

A woman I dated about 2 years ago told me about a revenge cheating she did. sorry, turned me off big time. I don't want to be with anyone that I know for sure cheated, much less admitted it, no matter what the excuse.

 

So naturally after she told me this, I wasn't really interested in her anymore as I know she had the potential and would excuse cheating if things probably didn't go exactly her way.

[lkjh]

Are freakin kidding? Before you two were together he asked a couple girls out and at a wedding he dance with someone once and now you want to cheat on him. Do not get married because you are nowhere near ready. I feel for this guy

[samsungxoxo]

I would recommend that you break up with your current boyfriend and stay single for a long while until you know what to seek in a healthy relationship. None of the above reasons you stated justifies cheating on him.

 

It might be helpful if you seek a counselor and/or therapists ASAP because it's pretty scary what you stated. If asking a couple girls while you both weren't exclusive, dancing with someone else you knew and accidentally saying his ex name is causing you to have cheating urges then what happens if worst problems arrived?

[JustLooking123]

I feel sorry for your boyfriend. Grow up.

[EnigmasMuse]

Here's an idea. Walk away from all of it, and don't look back. It would be the best and mature thing to do. However if your mind set is the way you post seems to be, I have a feeling you wont do that. So good luck with all of that.

[Bejita463]

I think you shouldn't lower yourself to his level.

 

If you cheat, even in revenge, you just become another one of those effin' worthless cheaters out there.

 

A woman I dated about 2 years ago told me about a revenge cheating she did. sorry, turned me off big time. I don't want to be with anyone that I know for sure cheated, much less admitted it, no matter what the excuse.

 

So naturally after she told me this, I wasn't really interested in her anymore as I know she had the potential and would excuse cheating if things probably didn't go exactly her way.

 

Usually I totally dig your posts, but I am missing something here, I think. Where did she say he cheated on her? I reread her post and I don't see it. I see that he had contact with an ex-fiance that he ceased speaking to once she asked, but that's it.

[LoveLace]

What is this guy's family life like? Mother cheat? Dad cheat? He picked up on this behavior before you, most likely. Sounds like a guilty pleasure he has. He probably does love you...in fact, cheaters do love people, it's not as though they are incapable of being in love while they bang others. Loving you does not make his behavior acceptable. He's in a pattern of cheating and then feeling guilty about it (one reason he's so dam nice to ya). He might love you, but he's not recognizing that his pattern represents being non-committed. Ever try this: "How would you feel if I cheated on you? If it wouldn't bother you, we should break up then."

 

That simple from the outside which you can't see from where you are.

 

Repeating his behavior isn't the answer. If he doesn't care about it, that's bad. If he does care, that's bad, too. He won't work to earn your trust if he feels you've betrayed his. And just because he cheats doesn't mean he won't feel betrayed.

 

You should work on leaving the relationship..staying teaches him that his behavior is okay.

[Bejita463]

Where are we getting that this guy cheated from? Seriously. She outright said he has not done that.

 

He has never cheated on me

[Dexter Morgan]

Usually I totally dig your posts, but I am missing something here, I think. Where did she say he cheated on her?

 

well, she didn't say that, so she wouldn't really be lowering to THAT level I would concede.

 

But he sure aint respecting her and the way he conducts himself, I wouldn't consider him very trustworthy.

[Winky25]

He has never cheated on me. I felt like he wants more options before you want to pick a gf. But I just can't take it.

 

What is this guy's family life like? Mother cheat? Dad cheat? He picked up on this behavior before you, most likely. Sounds like a guilty pleasure he has. He probably does love you...in fact, cheaters do love people, it's not as though they are incapable of being in love while they bang others. Loving you does not make his behavior acceptable. He's in a pattern of cheating and then feeling guilty about it (one reason he's so dam nice to ya). He might love you, but he's not recognizing that his pattern represents being non-committed. Ever try this: "How would you feel if I cheated on you? If it wouldn't bother you, we should break up then."

 

That simple from the outside which you can't see from where you are.

 

Repeating his behavior isn't the answer. If he doesn't care about it, that's bad. If he does care, that's bad, too. He won't work to earn your trust if he feels you've betrayed his. And just because he cheats doesn't mean he won't feel betrayed.

 

You should work on leaving the relationship..staying teaches him that his behavior is okay.

[Winky25]

He never cheated on me and yes i don't trust him completely cuz we only know each other for 1 year and 5 months!!

 

well, she didn't say that, so she wouldn't really be lowering to THAT level I would concede.

 

But he sure aint respecting her and the way he conducts himself, I wouldn't consider him very trustworthy.

[Dexter Morgan]

He never cheated on me

 

not that you know of. he doesn't exactly conduct himself as a person that would resist temptation if the perfect opportunity presented itself