bluewolf17 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I need some tips and advice on relationship time management. Lately my boyfriend said he isn't getting enough of my time pie. And no, that's not a dirty joke. Just that my days and weeks are divided into so many things. I work full time, I go to school full time, I play in a volleyball league, I work out 4-5 days a week, and I have a lot of friends. I love my boyfriend and WANT to spend as much time possible with him, but it is hard! His answer seems to be for me to cut back on gym time, or maybe we could live together. I need the gym for my sanity, and I only go for under 1.5 hours anyways. I don't want to live with a guy before I'm married so that is out of the question. Any ideas? We go to the same university, so we try to meet up after class, and he does stay at my place 1-2 times a week, I stay at his maybe once a week. I usually see him Friday nights and parts of Saturday. Sunday we both use as study days. It's getting hard! I wouldn't say our relationship suffers, just that I am always missing him, and vice versa. Sometimes we get upset with each other when we can't spend time together at the drop of a hat. Thanks!
hersmudders Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 I need some tips and advice on relationship time management. Lately my boyfriend said he isn't getting enough of my time pie. And no, that's not a dirty joke. Just that my days and weeks are divided into so many things. I work full time, I go to school full time, I play in a volleyball league, I work out 4-5 days a week, and I have a lot of friends. I love my boyfriend and WANT to spend as much time possible with him, but it is hard! His answer seems to be for me to cut back on gym time, or maybe we could live together. I need the gym for my sanity, and I only go for under 1.5 hours anyways. I don't want to live with a guy before I'm married so that is out of the question. Any ideas? We go to the same university, so we try to meet up after class, and he does stay at my place 1-2 times a week, I stay at his maybe once a week. I usually see him Friday nights and parts of Saturday. Sunday we both use as study days. It's getting hard! I wouldn't say our relationship suffers, just that I am always missing him, and vice versa. Sometimes we get upset with each other when we can't spend time together at the drop of a hat. Thanks! My boyfriend and I have a similar issue. The only way to fix this is to re-prioritize. Give up the volleyball league or cut back at the gym. He's right in this one. He could start becoming resentful of you and give you up if he doesn't see an effort made. From your post it doesn't seem like you care to fit him in much, othert than saying you miss him often. Only you can change this, it seems, but you don't seem to see him as a priority.
laRubiaBonita Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 My boyfriend and I have a similar issue. The only way to fix this is to re-prioritize. Give up the volleyball league or cut back at the gym. He's right in this one. He could start becoming resentful of you and give you up if he doesn't see an effort made. From your post it doesn't seem like you care to fit him in much, othert than saying you miss him often. Only you can change this, it seems, but you don't seem to see him as a priority. be careful with this though..... You could become resentful of HIM for making you feel bad if you don't give up something. if you do anything- do it because YOU want to, not because you have to.
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