Shiloh Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I kno my hubby is cheating on me. Don't mind it because I cheat on him. But his chick want to be seen like she don't kno that she is the side bitch. We have an image to uphold for our families and child and i guess my question is why do chick that kno they are coming in the situation as the side chick try to be more.? you kne the role you would be playin before you got in it!
TaylorJayne Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 First, its not cheating if you both know.....maybe its you that doesn't know your role.....your both closet swingers If you both are going to open up the door to other people coming in to the most sacred parts of your relationship- who are you to define boundaries when there are any?
donnamaybe Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 If you both are going to open up the door to other people coming in to the most sacred parts of your relationship- who are you to define boundaries when there are any? When someone has sex with a married person, they KNOW what they are getting into. Sex on the side. End of story. Why should an OW/OM assume they should be placed into a "starring role" in the MP's life?
Author Shiloh Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 i kno my role and i play it well and we have set boundaries and taking the side chick out is one of them. I would not classify what we are doing as having an open marriage. He is cheating and he thinks I don't kno he is doin it and thats why i have begun to cheat as well. Before we got married we said that if either of us cheated bring the side person around was unacceptable. I don't really think i should have gone this far in it for someone quick to judge someone else but thinks for the reply.
Author Shiloh Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Well What do you kno I guess the W is broken
TaylorJayne Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 When someone has sex with a married person, they KNOW what they are getting into. Sex on the side. End of story. Why should an OW/OM assume they should be placed into a "starring role" in the MP's life? I just feel that in a situation like that there aren't any boundaries already- and how do you define boundaries when there aren't any? Emotions are an abstract thing and we don't know all the details- maybe the O/W wants more, and maybe she went into it not expecting for her feelings to spin out of control. Thats why we place boundaries to begin with, its very difficult to reel them back in once you've let them go. Many people cant control their own feelings let alone that of another man or woman. I think thats why its so hard when ur S/O has cheated on you (I mean "you" in general), because you are already in love and you are the one who has to walk away, because there isn't any way to control what the other person is doing, one must set their one boundaries. BTY- from you posts Donna I do like you, so I hope you realize Im not trying to argue with you-
TaylorJayne Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 i kno my role and i play it well and we have set boundaries and taking the side chick out is one of them. I would not classify what we are doing as having an open marriage. He is cheating and he thinks I don't kno he is doin it and thats why i have begun to cheat as well. Before we got married we said that if either of us cheated bring the side person around was unacceptable. I don't really think i should have gone this far in it for someone quick to judge someone else but thinks for the reply. Judging a situation is not always bad- I simply accessed from what you had written- be that as it may- its ur life and I would never judge whether I liked or disliked someone because of their choices- just the situation they have placed themselves in. Not trying to offend- just a little too blunt sometimes
meerkat stew Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Regardless of what she says or how she acts or postures, you two lovely gems are the ones wearing the wedding rings, so why is it a bother to you? Anyone who hears her likely knows she is blowing smoke.
yeyo tornapart Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 I kno my hubby is cheating on me. Don't mind it because I cheat on him. But his chick want to be seen like she don't kno that she is the side bitch. We have an image to uphold for our families and child and i guess my question is why do chick that kno they are coming in the situation as the side chick try to be more.? you kne the role you would be playin before you got in it! Welcome Shiloh, well my opinion is that she really believes that she has a chance at something more with him. he is probably claiming how bad the M is and how horrible his life is going and she probably feels she can save him lol. The OW obviously signed up for more than what she could handle. the OW actually feels like she is not the side chick but on the other hand claims that title. its twisted and you wont ever understand because i've been seeking the same answer. I say Women keep your H/ partners close because there is a women who has her eye on your guy and will go after what she wants.
SuburbanOblivion Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 When someone has sex with a married person, they KNOW what they are getting into. Sex on the side. End of story. Why should an OW/OM assume they should be placed into a "starring role" in the MP's life? Because sometimes it happens. People who allow their spouses to cheat really should be careful the spouse doesn't find something out there they like better.
madnigerianswife Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 its true, when i met my husband he was married to another woman. she thought she was top dawg..lol. he told me about how unhappy he was how she was always sleeping around. well i told him that i am no ones mistress. that we can be friends and what ever but i wont be haing any sexual relationship with a married man. 3 month later he filed for the big D. she was dumb founded.
scatterd Posted February 20, 2010 Posted February 20, 2010 It seems it does not matter what the wife does you commit he cheats you let him do and he cheats and its with who ever is there for that time you dammed if you do and dammed if you dont it s selfish.Good luck this is your marriage put a end to it and start all over again be happy good luck sweety!
Author Shiloh Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 its true, when i met my husband he was married to another woman. she thought she was top dawg..lol. he told me about how unhappy he was how she was always sleeping around. well i told him that i am no ones mistress. that we can be friends and what ever but i wont be haing any sexual relationship with a married man. 3 month later he filed for the big D. she was dumb founded. sounds like he might just do that to you... How can you trust someone that would do something like that ... i feel in your situation its just a matter of time before he is looking for OW do to the same thing to you
Author Shiloh Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 Welcome Shiloh, well my opinion is that she really believes that she has a chance at something more with him. he is probably claiming how bad the M is and how horrible his life is going and she probably feels she can save him lol. The OW obviously signed up for more than what she could handle. the OW actually feels like she is not the side chick but on the other hand claims that title. its twisted and you wont ever understand because i've been seeking the same answer. I say Women keep your H/ partners close because there is a women who has her eye on your guy and will go after what she wants. She can have him then... She'll want to give him back once she finds out his flaws and that his sex gets lame after 4 months but he doesn't want to go anywhere... I have brought up D several times but he always says we can work through anything. And thanks for the Welcome
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