Dark_of_the_Moon Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I need to learn how to get over the regret. Regret of things that are past/over/whatever. That is something I have not yet accomplished in my life and its really holding me back. How do you deal with the regret? Has anyone else struggled with that?
annxxdisaster Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Watch the Last Unicorn Or the ending of it anyway. For whatever reason that movie ingrained the idea that regret is a waste of energy. Look at what you have learned because of things in the past. Or simply accept what has happened in the past is done, and if you ever DO feel regretful...feel it, then just shrug your shoulders and say 'Oh well', and move on.
DustySaltus Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Dark, I think regret is part of the growing process for all of us. You need to feel bad about something before you can truly appreciate something that's special. I've tried my best to make sure that history won't repeat itself because at the end of the day it's all we can control. I've become a much stronger individual after the situations I've been through. The happiness will soon follow. I regret not talking to Paula in my business class in college. She was the most beautiful girl in the world. I knew she liked me too but I was with someone at the time. A year later she walked right by me outside of school and I was single......I FROZE and didn't say a word. Of course I haven't seen her since. But you know what, I learned from that. If I want something I go out and get it because I don't want to go through the same thing again. And I did. I went halfway across the world and things didn't work out...but I had NO regrets because I did everything I could to show her that I cared. Now I know I can deal with anything life throws at me. Regrets help to shape us into the person we want to become....we have to learn from them, not feel sorry for them.
HeavenOrHell Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 I've had terrible regrets but my ex said don't blame yourself as he could have done more to help save our relationship too, which is true. I think regret can eat us up forever but what would it achieve? I think it's ok to feel regret to a certain extent as part of the grieving, but don't let it eat you up forever, it's pointless. I need to learn how to get over the regret. Regret of things that are past/over/whatever. That is something I have not yet accomplished in my life and its really holding me back. How do you deal with the regret? Has anyone else struggled with that?
acceptance101 Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Regret I too have had this problem. I think what helps it is to focus on the event...and forgive yourself. Accept that it didn't turn out the way you wanted, and that you were an idiot for acting that way, but that it's Okay. If ya can't forgive yourself you'll never be able to let go.
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