SarahRose Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I think this is how most of the male players come about. They get stung by one woman and then spend years screwing over women determined never to be hurt again.
lino Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 No, I didn't give him a chance because at the time I was interested in other guys. So only after you had enough of the *********s f*cking you over did you go back to this guy, effectively treating him even worse than sloppy seconds... Is this correct? If so, why are you surprised at him not wanting a relationship with you? I reckon you got a pretty good deal, if I was him I wouldn't have even offered you a friendship, I would have just told you to get lost and go back to chasing rich boys, playaz & bad c*ntz. He had every right to stop considering you as a serious potential after the way you treated him in the past. I got no sympathy for women like you at all. YOU chose to go after the wrong guys in your younger years and now YOU have to deal with the consequences of your decisions.
OpenBook Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I'd like to know how many women would screw over a totally random, decent guy for what some other guys did to them. I have certainly vowed to, after 2-3 bad breakups in my past. Never got the chance to actually do it though (nobody showed up to volunteer:laugh:). And my Rage Against The Opposite Sex dissolved pretty quickly into depression, so I lost my mojo to do it before I could actually pull it off. (I wonder if this rage is actually a healthier reaction than depression, which is anger turned inward.) I understand the anger, though. And I suspect many men feel exactly the same way, they just don't voice it like we women do. I think this is how most of the male players come about. They get stung by one woman and then spend years screwing over women determined never to be hurt again. I agree with you Sarah. I think so too.
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I've never screwed over or used a man.
SilkRose Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 no, i would not do that. it shows a character flaw - in a big way. This quote sums up my position, so well said! I would not intentionally hurt a someone. I'm either go into a relationship with total honesty and good intentions or I stay single and improve myself and my life.
Meaplus3 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 First, please read the original post and the next few posts of the OP in the post linked to. Go here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=221722 Then, if you would tell me what you feel is the percentage of single women out there who feel this way or actually do this...I will give you half my winnings when I hit the lottery. I know a LOT of guys get used...and women get used as well...the one in the thread linked to above apparently got it big time. I'd like to know how many women would screw over a totally random, decent guy for what some other guys did to them. I really, really, really, really, really would love to know. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond! Not this girl. I see NO point in messing with a person and playing them.. to me that is just awful. If I am going to make a go for a guy, it's because I honestly think their is a chance for a relationship. Just not a fan of game players. Mea:)
Woggle Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I am actually very pleasently surprised by the answers from women in this thread. I was expecting something completely different.
phineas Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I've never even used the guise of a relationship to have sex with a woman. I've never pulled the "let's be friends" BS & never once flaked on a woman after telling her I liked her. Personally I think greatgirlfriend was acting like what is between her legs was buried treasure & he sailed off to find some other booty. Now she's bitter that the guy wasn't as smitten with her as she wanted.
whichwayisup Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I could never intentionally hurt anyone, let alone a guy I was seeing. It's just plain cruel to do that! To put a 'plan' together and then put into action.
Jersey Shortie Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I wouldn't target an innocent man for the ills of another. However, these experiences make you more guarded and less trustful in general. I've never had a woman do the things to me that I've had men done. So it's pretty logical to understand the weariness and distrust that builds up when you have certain experiences. It is a roadblock and it's also a protection feature. I think it's unfair for a woman to treat every man she meets like he is going to beat and rape her. But I also think it's unfair for men to think that a woman should automatically trust him and be vunerable to him when so many other men have taken advantage of those positions.
sunrae Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 First, please read the original post and the next few posts of the OP in the post linked to. Go here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=221722 Then, if you would tell me what you feel is the percentage of single women out there who feel this way or actually do this...I will give you half my winnings when I hit the lottery. I know a LOT of guys get used...and women get used as well...the one in the thread linked to above apparently got it big time. I'd like to know how many women would screw over a totally random, decent guy for what some other guys did to them. I really, really, really, really, really would love to know. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond! Not me... I hate to be used, so there I never use anyone.. Karma is a beeotch.. Maybe she keeps getting treated this way because she treats others this way. Just a thought?
phineas Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Not me... I hate to be used, so there I never use anyone.. Karma is a beeotch.. Maybe she keeps getting treated this way because she treats others this way. Just a thought? I think she plays games with men or makes them jump through hoops & they get a glimpse of being in a relationship with her & bail.
bayouboi Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I've never screwed over or used a man. That's too bad...I was really starting to like you :'(
bayouboi Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I've never had a woman do the things to me that I've had men done. lol, wut???
Woggle Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I wouldn't target an innocent man for the ills of another. However, these experiences make you more guarded and less trustful in general. I've never had a woman do the things to me that I've had men done. So it's pretty logical to understand the weariness and distrust that builds up when you have certain experiences. It is a roadblock and it's also a protection feature. I think it's unfair for a woman to treat every man she meets like he is going to beat and rape her. But I also think it's unfair for men to think that a woman should automatically trust him and be vunerable to him when so many other men have taken advantage of those positions. That is because you are a woman who is interested in men and you are looking at it from that perspective. Men go through their share of drama with women as well and their only crime was being nice and caring to the wrong one. I am sort of the way you desribe in that I would never hurt a woman but I have walls around me so thick that I don't if I will ever be able to trust one again. I don't like being this way but it's almost reflex at this point.
Ms. Joolie Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Any poor treatment a man has received due to my disregard of his well-being has heretofore been entirely not due to my personal romantic past experiences. Furthermore, I have never intended nor desired to date a man with the sole purpose of relieving any negative nature I may have acquired nor to impose revenge on him for the fault of another. The extent of this nature perceived (that in which a woman desires to impose ill treatment on a man due to her negative reaction to past experiences) is likely more common than recognized. This would be due to the distinction of whether a woman knowingly or unknowingly is imposing such treatment on a man. (That is to say willingly or unwillingly, with or without intent) To observe the outright statement from a woman that she knowingly and with intention desires to abuse her next relationship is to be considered a confession of action intended. This is not to say that she has performed said behavior or she will perform said behavior, but only that the desire to perform said behavior has been created and admitted publicly. The general public, in response to a public statement of intended abuse, is a matter which will not be discussed in detail this post. Thank you.
freestyle Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 It's really hard to fathom anyone truly wishing to cause an innocent party pain. I guess there are some souls that are that twisted, and sadistic from the get-go..........I certainly hope this isn't the case with gg. I suspect not.......
Johnny M Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I'd like to know how many women would screw over a totally random, decent guy for what some other guys did to them. I really, really, really, really, really would love to know. Happens all the time. Anger and female irrationality are a bad combination.
Johnny M Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Disturbed? How would you feel if you stopped dating because you got scammed by many guys, only to reconnect with a "nice guy" who you always liked but bypassed because he wasn't hot back then? Then you see him, realize the chemistry is there, you sit and talk with him, then you find out he decided after all he wasn't into a relationship? I'm sure you wouldn't be happy. Hahaha, greatgirlfriend is obviously a troll.
Kamille Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I could never intentionally hurt anyone, let alone a guy I was seeing. It's just plain cruel to do that! To put a 'plan' together and then put into action. Not to mention it's a waste of time and energy.
carhill Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Happens all the time. Anger and female irrationality are a bad combination. Yep; in military terms, it's called collateral damage. IMO, perhaps aligning somewhat with Wog's perspective, a man who wishes to keep his heart open to the potential of healthy intimacy with a woman must, *must* have clear, identifiable and enforceable boundaries of behavior and tolerate no breaches of those boundaries. This can be done without anger; in fact, I've found it's healthier done without anger. So far, so good. I for one hope the referenced OP is not a troll; trolls sour my genuine willingness to empathize and support, just as being collateral damage in real life has erected similar boundaries. I realize this matters little to such people as they move on to other, more ripe targets. And then they die
Silver_star Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 My answer to this thread is NO. I would never do anything intentionally to hurt somebody. I have been dumped and it hurts real bad and makes me lose faith in guys sometimes, but I know that there are good ones out there...it will just take time before I can heal and find one for myself. The mistakes that my ex made actually made actually made me realize that there IS soo much better out there and I deserve it. The girl in the other thread is in angry phase of trying to move on...she doesnt think its possible and she blames ALL men, she will eventually see how ridiculous she has been acting though.
Rulebreaker Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I think the OP in that other thread was extreme, but I definitely understand the underlying sentiment. Basically, it's a feeling of lack of control over your life that comes from being deeply hurt. You want to take control over anything you can - in this case, the next unwitting guy who comes along. I personally did things a bit differently in reaction to this feeling. What I would do when someone hurt me was go give them a really awesome blow job and then shut them out of my life for several months. Also unhealthy, but I think less so Anyhow I'm not doing any of those things anymore because I've grown up and gotten a bit more perspective on this.
Johnny M Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I personally did things a bit differently in reaction to this feeling. What I would do when someone hurt me was go give them a really awesome blow job and then shut them out of my life for several months. LOL. Who would have thought that the key to getting a really awesome blowjob is to hurt somebody's feelings...Women
Silver_star Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I think the OP in that other thread was extreme, but I definitely understand the underlying sentiment. Basically, it's a feeling of lack of control over your life that comes from being deeply hurt. You want to take control over anything you can - in this case, the next unwitting guy who comes along. I personally did things a bit differently in reaction to this feeling. What I would do when someone hurt me was go give them a really awesome blow job and then shut them out of my life for several months. Also unhealthy, but I think less so Anyhow I'm not doing any of those things anymore because I've grown up and gotten a bit more perspective on this. The lesson here is you cant control everything in your life. The girl in the last thread wanted to, and it seems from her posts that she was used to having the upperhand and when that changed she went to extremes and said she would go to extreme measures out of anger ("because if i cant have the one i want..i dont want anyone else and i want men to pay") That is a ridiculous statement if i ever heard one. You can give em a blowjob and not talk to them for months to make yourself feel better when they call and want more of ur mouth, lol, but you cant change their feelings for you. So it takes time to discover that you really are worth loving and you really are worth caring for, and if someone wants to leave...let them. Their loss. If you loved them, well sometimes we need to let those we love go. Its the ultimate gesture of love if you can do that.
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