ecco51 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 hey guys, usually im not one to be jelous at all, but tonight my gf did something that just annoys the f*** out of me. I was out tonight at my sports practice and she went out to dinner with some of her friends. i called her when i got home and she was walking back in group of people and i noticed a few guys voices i never heard. later that night i asked her who she was with and i knew all of them except one that ive never met. she called later and was being somewhat quite on the phone, she said she was tired so i took it with a grain of salt. then the only thing she really says out of the entire conversation was "what impression do you get when a guy stares at you alot" i just answered "idk, maybe they like you or something" then i asked why. she said no reason, just curious. and i left it at that. then i kinda thought to myself that the guy ive never met was staring at her, i asked her if that was the case and she said no. i could tell she was lying so then i asked a few more times and eventually i got out of her that was that was the case and that the reason she said no was bc she didnt want me to worry over nothing. it bugs the hell out of me on why the only thing she said tonight was something involving on whether or not i think some guy likes her, and for the fact this isnt usually like her at all. i could tell something was on her mind, and this whole situation just kind of makes me think that she thought something about this guy or something, it put me in a real crappy mood, i hate when any girl im in a relationship acts sketchy to certain situations like this. thanks for any advice
Twenty-ten Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 You should have told her "it means you have big a boogie hanging out of your nose" No but seriously, that was a dumbass thing to ask you. Sometimes people say things to get their partners jealous because they feel threatened in some way, other times people just say dumb things. It's understandable you would be jealous of this, play it cool play it calm. If she wants a rise out of you don't give her the satisfaction.
Author ecco51 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 i kind of lost my cool already, i got pissed when she started doing the whole "its nothing" thing. i asked her whyd she even care and she said i dont care, im just wondering what u wouldve thought... and other bs. but it just pisses me off....the only thing she said to me was that, and its obvious it was on her mind and i cant figure out why.
Twenty-ten Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Has there been any recent incidents where she felt jealous of you? Anything at all worth making note of?
Author ecco51 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 honestly no, were both not jelous people. even though tonight she made the remark that she thinks i am jelous, but im assuming she just said that bc she figured out i knew she was bs and that was her way of trying to turn the tables around. she kept complaining of how tired she was and how she didnt want to argue right now so she went to bed. i said goodnight and hung up. then i left her a text 20 mins later just saying that it bothered me and i cant understand whyd shed care enough to have it on her mind int he first place.
btc8 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 i kind of lost my cool already, i got pissed when she started doing the whole "its nothing" thing. i asked her whyd she even care and she said i dont care, im just wondering what u wouldve thought... and other bs. but it just pisses me off....the only thing she said to me was that, and its obvious it was on her mind and i cant figure out why. This is just it: She wants to push your buttons. There is no logical reason for her to say something like that to you had she not wanted to elicit some sort of reaction out of you. It's awfully passive aggressive. If I were you, I'd let this one roll off your back, but if she does something like this again, and you find yourself getting mad, then you have to sit her down and tell her she's being an idiot and you don't like it. Be firm. She has no right to run you through a ringer like that--you two are already committed and in a relationship.
Twenty-ten Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Ok well if there was nothing then she obviously saw something in that guy that was of interest to her. Whether it was his attention for her. ie the ego stroke, or the fact that she liked something about him either way it was inappropriate to ask you that loaded question. On top of it she tells you that you are "jealous" well duhhh what did she expect you to do, cheer her on? In a few weeks tell her someone from your past that you had a mad crush on sent you an email because "they were thinking of you", ask her what she thinks that five word message means? We'll see how that makers her feel.
Author ecco51 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 is she seriously doing this as a way to make me feel jelous?? its really not like her *AT ALL* to be the kind of person to do that... we've been together over a year. another thing that really got to me was when i asked her why it was on her mind and why she brought it up her reason was "there was no reason, it just came to my mind and i was curious" then after discussing it i then asked why she didnt tell me it was referring to him til after i asked 20 times, and her reason was "i was going to tell u eventually but i knew u were gonna get pissed off, I could just tell you were already getting pissed by the way u said *why* after i asked you the question" which tell me either it was somewhat premeditated so there has to be some bs around here in this story. im sorry, im just extremely annoyed atm
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