clueless24 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 So this guy and I spent some time together for a month or so in a new city since we were assigned to the same project. Nothing happened when we were there but when we got back to our home city...we went out with some friends...ended up making out with him on the dance floor. The next day we hung out, he apologized, stating he was drunk...and while having a discussion with some friends, he mentions he is just looking for hookups and not for relationships since he was recently divorced (within the last 6 months). We have been hanging out on weekends since and he would text me like at midnight (when the bars close at 1) to ask if i am out drinking and to join him and his friends. I usually responds to his text right away...He doesn't respond until much later if I ask him to hang out with the group...but he would always always show up...just wont text back to tell me if he's coming or not, but would text at a time close to the event and ask if it's still on and that he'll join us. He is a very nice guy at heart but I don't know what his intentions are =( help..... thanks!!
EYECANDY000 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 So this guy and I spent some time together for a month or so in a new city since we were assigned to the same project. Nothing happened when we were there but when we got back to our home city...we went out with some friends...ended up making out with him on the dance floor. The next day we hung out, he apologized, stating he was drunk...and while having a discussion with some friends, he mentions he is just looking for hookups and not for relationships since he was recently divorced (within the last 6 months). We have been hanging out on weekends since and he would text me like at midnight (when the bars close at 1) to ask if i am out drinking and to join him and his friends. I usually responds to his text right away...He doesn't respond until much later if I ask him to hang out with the group...but he would always always show up...just wont text back to tell me if he's coming or not, but would text at a time close to the event and ask if it's still on and that he'll join us. He is a very nice guy at heart but I don't know what his intentions are =( help..... thanks!! He has already answered the question. He isnt looking for anything serious, just FWB.
boogieboy Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 His intentions are that he will never want a relationship with you. Maybe a booty call but nothing more. You ready for that?
btc8 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Clueless24, You truly are clueless in this situation. He told you upfront that he just wants action. Take all his actions at this point at face value: He just wants you for sex, therefore, you should take all of his actions with a grain of salt, and not intend to believe that he's after for anything deeper than the superficiality of sex.
Author clueless24 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 I know deep down that's all it's...and I know i am not the one to change him yet I wonder . I am not ready and do not intend to be involved in a FWB or booty call. I am not really hoping for anything, I just want to remain friends at this point. What I am confused about is that he introduced me to his friends and his brother and sister...maybe it's just a friendly thing. Do guys just kiss any girl when they're drunk or do they need the attraction? Cuz it doesn't matter how drunk I am, I have to be very attracted to that person to be that intimate.
btc8 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Do guys just kiss any girl when they're drunk or do they need the attraction? Cuz it doesn't matter how drunk I am, I have to be very attracted to that person to be that intimate. Generally, inebriation precludes your ability to think rationally.
Author clueless24 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Generally, inebriation precludes your ability to think rationally. I think he was buzzed...but I don't think he was that drunk. It doesn't matter, you're right
boogieboy Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 You say you want to be "friends" but what you really want to do is wait until he comes around. Dont bother.
Wallace1 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 His interest is clearly in FWB or Booty Call. If I regretted making out or hooking up with someone while drunk/buzzed, I wouldn't ask them to do it again. I'd ask them to do it again if I was attracted to them.
make me believe Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 You say you want to be "friends" but what you really want to do is wait until he comes around. Dont bother. I agree. He's stated clearly that his intentions are to get laid. Being "friends" with him at this point is just wasting your time. And btw, when the bar closes at 1:00 & he texts you at midnight, that's because he didn't have any luck with the women at the bar that night & he's looking for you to be his backup option.
Author clueless24 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 So even the nicest guys don't come around eh? If a guy started out thinking he just wants to bang a girl, if he hangs around her long enough to find out she's a nice person...will he ever change his mind? I don't mind if he doesn't come around, I just like to be around him but of course a friend, not anything more if he doesn't consider relationships.
skydiveaddict Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 So even the nicest guys don't come around eh? Yes "nice guys" do come around. But he is not a nice guy. He just wants some action
Author clueless24 Posted February 19, 2010 Author Posted February 19, 2010 Where are all the nice guys? I guess I'll just have to take him off my mind...Thanks guys!!!
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