phineas Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 A woman in my building at work started pursuing me after she learned I was separated from my wife for 6 months. This was about 6 months ago. Asked for my number, asked me to hang out. We did. Most of the day. I had my reservations because occasionally i did work with her. I asked her out & she said "I was married". Ok. then why the hell did you just spend the day at my house with me? fine I can understand that. But she still wanted to see me later that week. She was going to call me when she got out of work. Blow-off. I eventually asked her what the deal was & she admitted to dating someone but said it wasn't serious. I told her to call me when she was no longer dating someone. Work wasn't awkward because I just didn't care. Afterword she would nonchalantly ask me how things were & comment how divorced men are treated by my state. (she was trying to find out if I was still married I think) I really didn't respond much to her. The last week she started flirting with me at work again. Sexual innuendo & even sat in my lap. when I didn't respond all that much she got angry with me. LOL! Then she asked me why I don't send her any jokes on the cell phone & kept pestering me. I told her I deleted her number. She gave it to me & i just sent her some stupid joke to shut her up. She responded later then asked me if I got her response. OK whatever. I'm 38 & she's a very attractive 35. I would of thought these gradeschool games would of worked their way out by now. Anyway, at 10:15 PM my cell phone went off while I was watching TV. It was her. I didn't have my cell on me & she hung up before it went to VM. She didn't leave message. I wasn't very impressed with the way she acted back then & I'm fairly certain she knows that by the way I interact with her. I liked this girl, but I don't think I'm going to respond or ask her why she called. I seriously doubt she accidentally dialed my number. She probably chickened out since she never apologized for blowing me off. We work on different floors & different departments but i'm still uneasy about the work thing.
boogieboy Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 When she knew she had you, she backed off. When she knows you dont want her, she wants to prove for her ego that she can have you again, just to probably back off. F*ck her.
deux ex machina Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 It sounds like she would be a headache. Her lack of consideration for you (not calling when she said she would), respect for your boundaries (sitting on your lap at work!), and especially the attention-seeking speak volumes. Someone playing games is the last thing you need in your life right now.
2sunny Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 this looks like a no. no go. too much drama and childish games. tell her that - she would benefit her future to know the truth.
btc8 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Hold on a sec. She said she was married? Did everyone miss that? Or was that a joke?
The Paper Knight Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 (edited) Sounds like she is a player and just wants some fun. If you can stomach a physical relationship go for it. Start sending her dirty texts late at night and make her come to you. If you think your emotions will get in the way, then shut her down, she will probably be a train wreck. Edited February 18, 2010 by The Paper Knight
The Paper Knight Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Hold on a sec. She said she was married? Did everyone miss that? Or was that a joke? OP: I asked her out & she said "I was married". she was fishing about his late marriage.
whichwayisup Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 She's reacting in the moment and yes it is very highschool and immature, childish. Run Forrest! Also, if/when you see her at work, be professional. Smile, say hello and walk away (that is if you two make eye contact and something has to be said) or just do your best to avoid running into her. She is one to stay away from, like her or not!
btc8 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 OP: I asked her out & she said "I was married". she was fishing about his late marriage. Gotcha. Yes, run. She's a moron. She will make you that too if you put up with her antics.
Author phineas Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Good. I seem to be on the same page as everyone else. I get the whole changing her mind about dating a married guy thing. Especially since my STBXW called the house 5 times in a row while she was there. But to just blow me off & send me a text 2 days later to say hi & act like it didn't happen? She was all nervous & smiles & gestating hands & babbling a little when I asked her out before she left my house. We hugged. She acted like she was genuinely into me. I suspect she just met somebody with less baggage that weekend. Which again I can respect & be cool with. If she had been upfront about it. And she wasn't. She just wanted to act like she never blew me off. She back-burner'd me. I see the game playing. It just amazes me that a woman of 35 would be doing it. I see this situation pop up all the time on LS. I mainly posted this so other's can see it as an example. She has had my number for the last 6 months but did not call me. She was flirting with me on & off the last few months then ramped it up the last week or so. But, she did not call me to tell me she was no longer dating. READ: she had my number but choose to flirt with me to seek attention instead of calling me. Game player. If she calls me I will tell her that blowing someone off is rude, immature & unattractive. That her game playing is going to get her nowhere. I'm not going to be a jerk, but I am definitely going to call her on her actions.
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