luvflower Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 What would you do if a guy you're seeing has a baby's mother who starts leaving ignorant, dumb messages on your phone. Would you answer the next time she calls and shut her down or would you just ignore? Plzzz...i'm 'bout to catch a case...
blind_otter Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I would wonder what kind of relationship the guy has with his baby's mother. IME when there is a psycho ex, it's usually because the guy was horrible and awful to his ex. It always plays out that way. This is why it's important to make sure any potential mates are on good terms with their children's mother. How they treated her will very likely be (eventually) how they treat you. ANd they YOU will be the psycho babymama leaving messages. Just a thought. I wish women would stick together instead of being bitch and assuming that everyone wants to take their man. If we had a little more solidarity, maybe there wouldn't be so many huge, pulsating *******s that claim to be men!
silverfish Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I would wonder what kind of relationship the guy has with his baby's mother. IME when there is a psycho ex, it's usually because the guy was horrible and awful to his ex. It always plays out that way. This is why it's important to make sure any potential mates are on good terms with their children's mother. How they treated her will very likely be (eventually) how they treat you. ANd they YOU will be the psycho babymama leaving messages. Just a thought. I wish women would stick together instead of being bitch and assuming that everyone wants to take their man. If we had a little more solidarity, maybe there wouldn't be so many huge, pulsating *******s that claim to be men! Agree! But why does she have your number I wonder?!
EYECANDY000 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 What would you do if a guy you're seeing has a baby's mother who starts leaving ignorant, dumb messages on your phone. Would you answer the next time she calls and shut her down or would you just ignore? Plzzz...i'm 'bout to catch a case... Stay out of it. Let him handle the situation. Because nothing good will come from you and her arguing and going back and forth. Itll just add fuel to the fire.
Author luvflower Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 I would wonder what kind of relationship the guy has with his baby's mother. IME when there is a psycho ex, it's usually because the guy was horrible and awful to his ex. It always plays out that way. This is why it's important to make sure any potential mates are on good terms with their children's mother. How they treated her will very likely be (eventually) how they treat you. ANd they YOU will be the psycho babymama leaving messages. Just a thought. I wish women would stick together instead of being bitch and assuming that everyone wants to take their man. If we had a little more solidarity, maybe there wouldn't be so many huge, pulsating *******s that claim to be men! you made some very good points. however...i'm not concerned about her "taking him". she can have him. my concern is that it's disrespectful and ignorant of her to be calling me. she don't know me LIKE THAT...feel me. i have nothing to say to her, but she has crossed the line. if she's his baby's mother that's fine. but if she wants him she should talk to him and not me. i've never been the type to get into any dispute w/another woman over a dude b/c no guy, IMO, is worth that. i'm about to let this guy go for the simple fact that he has allowed this to go on. she disrespects him that much to call him cursing him out, cursing his mother out and now leaving messages on my phone...makes no sense...
Author luvflower Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 But why does she have your number I wonder?! exactly...she's crazy. she got his s.s. # (he says )and went through his phone records.... still why do women feel the need to call the woman when they should be dealing with the man.
Enema Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 still why do women feel the need to call the woman when they should be dealing with the man. Hey buddy, this one's easy: Women are not logical, they're emotional. They don't / can't think like a rational person 85.6% of the time.
littlewhiterose Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Please don't catch a case... Where is he in all of this? I hope he's actively trying to resolve the situation and not sitting back watching two women fight over him. If he's not then maybe it'd be best to reconsider the situation.
silverfish Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 exactly...she's crazy. she got his s.s. # (he says )and went through his phone records.... still why do women feel the need to call the woman when they should be dealing with the man. Hmmm..he says? Do you believe him? Most women don't feel the need to call the woman...he should be dealing with this and you should text her to let her know she needs to contact him and that you are now blocking her number.
Author luvflower Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Please don't catch a case... Where is he in all of this? I hope he's actively trying to resolve the situation and not sitting back watching two women fight over him. If he's not then maybe it'd be best to reconsider the situation. please don't be confused. i'm not fighting. i haven't responded to this chic. i don't get into stuff like this b/c it's for the birds, for real. no one who really knows me has ever approached me like this chic has...so she obviously doesn't know me and doesn't have much intelligence. yes, i was hot for her calling me a bitch and not even knowing me. that's the blower! i don't fight over guys. this guy is no exception. he has been calling me to see how i'm doing and asking me dumb stuff and getting on my nerves...he's really a punk in my eyes, especially now. of course i'm letting him handle this. this is his battle not mine, whatsoever. lol...i won't catch a case. i've decided to ignore the calls. again, he's at work and has been calling me throughout the night but on his way home.she thinks we are together right now, from the messages she keeps leaving me...
Author luvflower Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 How'd she get your number anyway? i'm not certain. he says he doesn't know but he thinks she used his s.s. # to look up his phone record or bill. the fact that he's a rather passive guy and she feels comfortable enough to curse his mother out, curse him out, now me...that's unacceptable and it makes me see that she has no repect for him or herself.i'm embarassed to say i'm kinda sorta with someone like him at this point, seriously.
Author luvflower Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Hmmm..he says? Do you believe him?QUOTE] i do believe him actually. she was the one who left the message saying she went throught his phone records and saw mynumber.
Author luvflower Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Stay out of it. Let him handle the situation. Because nothing good will come from you and her arguing and going back and forth. Itll just add fuel to the fire. agree completely.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 This is why I never date guys with kids.
Author luvflower Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 This is why I never date guys with kids. you're very wise... I'm going to try and follow that rule at some point...soon
littlewhiterose Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 This is why I never date guys with kids. Me neither, greatgirlfriend.
Author luvflower Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 so far its died down. she or her so called friend has been texting from a different number.its still annoying but i'm glad it's died down. he and i live together which is the part i resent so much. i am trying to move out in a matter of days so this will not be nagging me so much. in many ways he thinks i will just be here no matter what, but i don't even want to be here anymore.
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