jgaz3124 Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Tell me again we I should not contact him?
Odyssey Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 OP, my ex left me hanging with the silent treatment too. He's sounded like a total loser with his immature behavior. Look...you're better off without him.
paleblue Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 you should not because 1) he dumped you. it's up to him to contact you first. this is called keeping your dignity. 2) you have had it with him breaking up with you. 3) you want to move on from this and find someone better that wont keeping dumping you. 4) you have gone thru this before and know that nothing good comes from keeping in contact with this loser. 5) you know you will feel even worse after you do. 6) there are lots of guys out there who will appreciate and want to be with you.
skydiveaddict Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Tell me again we I should not contact him? So you don't re-open wounds that are trying to heal.
Author jgaz3124 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 thanks for the responses guys, I actually just decided to take a ride to my local barnes and noble to keep myself busy so I won't contact him, it worked for alittle while but the feeling is back, but you are right I don't need to open up these wounds again and again. Besides I need to get my strength up for the day that will come when he contacts me so that I can ignore him and move on for good.
paleblue Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 buy a couple new outfits. i know it sounds stupid but i swear to god buying a few new things helps if only for a bit. when the feeling wear off, repeat.
9Lives Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 thanks for the responses guys, I actually just decided to take a ride to my local barnes and noble to keep myself busy so I won't contact him, it worked for alittle while but the feeling is back, but you are right I don't need to open up these wounds again and again. Besides I need to get my strength up for the day that will come when he contacts me so that I can ignore him and move on for good. call mother, father, sister, brother, grandma, auntie, Jesus, cousin...ANYBODY BUT HIM!!! I know you are strugggling but I can tell you that it will not be good to make the call. Best to keep going. He dont want to talk to you. He dont want to hear from you. He left you. Dont put yourself thru it.
Author jgaz3124 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 LOL Paleblue I culdn't agree more I love retail therapy. I actually did buy some new clothes and they made me feel great. I love buying candles also the smells really relax me.
paleblue Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 lol... retail therapy. now that is a new one to me have to remember that one....
ginyi1111 Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 This thread is just what i need right now...i have been struggling as well to keep with NC. Just remember we cannot control what others do (whether he calls or not, take you back, unbreak your heart, say the things you want to hear), we can only control ourselves...
bluewolf17 Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 Don't contact him, because he is making a active decision to NOT contact you. Don't contact him, because for whatever reason THAT YOU CAN'T CHANGE, he decided to not work on things and just give up. Don't contact him because you deserve to be with someone that would never give up on you. Don't contact him because you are better than that.
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