onesweetpea Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Hello all, Well my situation is kind of confusing, Lets start from the begining, 2 years ago in July 2007 my husband started an affair with one of his employees. So of course it wasnt long before our relationship fell apart. I ended up having my own affair not knowing about his, in April of 2008. So everything blew up that summer 2008. So we both went back and forth on things, breaking up, getting together again, talked about divorce but nothing was ever filed. So in the meantime our finances fell apart, and since I no longer feel like an independent woman (w my empty wallet) I decided to move away to my moms in another country. So I packed up and with my husbands consent moved the children here, at that time we were living together, so now we are supposedly in a Long Distance Marriage. He claims to want to move down here after he sells his business and is supporting us financially. Well I dont trust him, I know he doesnt trust me, we both know we're better off divorcing but because of the kids no one had the guts to go through with it. So we both mentally, I guess agreed to be in this "pretend" relationship. Agh!!! its driving me crazy, I want to be free, but I always feel what if he really is going to try to be commited to me and our family? How did people do it in the old days when you stayed married no matter what? Anyone had a similar experience where you were able to start over? I definately can do it, but I feel he wont ever forgive me, culturally he feels like a man should be forgiven but not a woman, yet he still wants to try. Makes no sense to me!!!
SuburbanOblivion Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 You both screwed up, neither of you want to divorce..so the question is do you *want* to try again? I'd say his willing to move to be with you is a pretty good first step towards re-committing.
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