imbetteroffalone Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Ok, so this is long, but I need some advice - help! Met this guy 15 years ago and recently reconnected on fb. Emailed and messaged a bit then ;got together when I was back home for the holidays. Both really wanted to see each other, admitted he had a crush on me back then and things were great. Back home after the holidays and 300 miles apart. He txtd and or called me daily. Saying hello beautiful, goodnight beautiful, how are you etc. just very nice, flirty and obviously liked me. But nothing said about our "status" or about visiting. At one point he didn't contact me for 3 days so I sent him an email telling him if he was playing games that they only hurt me and push me away. That it had been a while, if ever that i had felt this way about someone and that I don't play games and if it seems like I was, it was only to protect my heart and that if we didn't feel the same and want the same things in life we could just be friends. - I know, over the top and prolly shouldn't have sent an email. He called me as soon as he read the email and said "you couldn't be further from the truth" He has talked to me about everything going on in his life, some real stressors and he is going thru an extremely difficult time right now. Maybe I am just a sounding board? Ummm, so 2 weeks ago he was txting me late at night after he had had a few drinks. Wanted me to come up and visit, like right then, lol. Told him maybe i could come up the next day (friday). Talked to him the next day and asked him "what about our convo. last night?" he said "that's fine" I asked what that meant and he said "it means i would love to see you. If this weekend is good, great. If two weeks from now is better when I;m not busy Sat, then i can live with that." I said 2 weeks would be better cuz why come up fri. and go home sat. Also seemed like every time i singed on to fb, he signed off. But still contacting me daily. Even said he would like me to call him. I did. So...next week sent him a txt saying "wish you were herer" no reponse. An hours later he said he had dozed off. I don't really believe that, and he didn't respond to I whish you were here. So still talking, still telling all his problems. Talked Friday cuz we might have been able to see each other that night, but it didn't work out. Told him i would just see him next weekend. That night he went and scheduled something for Sat. after he had told me two weeks in a row that he wanted to get together then and didn't have anything that weekend. It was listed on his fb wall. The next day he deleted it from his wall, but it is still scheduled - why delete it? So I don't see it? Hasn't done that before. Why would he do that? Txtd Sat. last txt I said "i will talk to you tomorrow??" he said "yes you will. sweet dreams." Did not hear from him. Sent him "happy valentines day" at 11pm. Have not heard from him since Sat. when he said Yes you will. He is very stressed out and has a lot going on. I understand that, but I am hurt that he would schedule this when we are supposed to get together, then hide it from me, then not respond to my valentines txt. Also, why haven't i heard from him? today is day 4 and we are supposed to get together friday. I am hurt and not contacting him. And when I see him on fb I sign off first. There has never been any kind of definition of our relationship, so there really is no obligation; but every thing he has done up until the last week has indicated that he really really likes me. I am so confused! A lot of mixed signals it seems. Advice please, but be nice : )
OnlyJake Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 I struggled through this, as you didn't use paragraphs to break up your very long post. I also don't at all understand the timeline you gave, and when you were supposed to hang out. I'm confused as to whether you were blown off or not. If you were blown off, then that's all you need to know: he's not interested. If you haven't been blown off, and you're just freaking out because you're supposed to see him this weekend and he accepted a FB invite to something (people ALWAYS say YES and really mean NO or MAYBE to those things), then chill out.
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