Author mmk1 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 (edited) Well, I sent her a email explaining why I did not contact her sooner or over V-Day, as several posters suggested. She wrote back that I did nothing wrong and she though nothing of the fact I didn't ask her out again soon. Moreover, she said she did in fact just get more serious with some other guy and said I should not doubt myself! I feel like a huge idiot for sending the email. Ladies, if she had a serious boyfriend why would she never mention that and why would she make out with me like teenagers at the end of our date last week since she has a serious boyfriend? I don't get it!! Edited February 18, 2010 by mmk1 Add a question
Author mmk1 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Any help understanding my post above?
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Bummer! So sorry It may have got "serious" on Valentines weekend. You may feel foolish for sending the email, but if things don't work out with this other guy, you've given her good reason to call you.
Author mmk1 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 txsilkysmoothe, she said it got serious last month after they've been dating since last fall, which covers the time period of both our dates, including the first time when she initiated a kiss with me. Just puzzling why she would act that way with me when she already had someone and never mentioned him once. The best I can say is that it was fun! :-)
Johnny M Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I did not want to push it by asking her out again for Valentine's Day (which was 3 days later) and did not send anything since we are so new. (Mistake?) Yes, she assumed you spent V day with someone else. At minimum, you should have called her.
Author mmk1 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 I generally agree with you, Johnny, but in this case, apparently my girl already had a serious boyfriend that she failed to mention to me while we were kissing last week. So, I think she genuinely was not upset at my not calling since she had something else going already. I will, however, use this lesson when I date available girls in the future!
Johnny M Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I generally agree with you, Johnny, but in this case, apparently my girl already had a serious boyfriend that she failed to mention to me while we were kissing last week. So, I think she genuinely was not upset at my not calling since she had something else going already. I will, however, use this lesson when I date available girls in the future! Well, if she was cheating on her BF with you, it's obviously a totally different dynamic. My guess is that she started seeing you when she was going through a rough patch with her BF, but now they have resolved their issues and you are no longer necessary. Don't waste any more time with this skank.
Jersey Shortie Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Don't waste any more time with this skank. Don't talk about yourself so! You're a special boy Johnny and some girl some day will love you.
Johnny M Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Don't talk about yourself so! You're a special boy Johnny and some girl some day will love you. Sorry if I offended you and other cheating 'ladies' on this board
St. Nick Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I HATE it when a man asks me on a date with a text message. It's so impersonal. Those guys got the chop fast when I was multi-dating. Also, men would would wait a week after a date to set up the next date. Next. He clearly doesn't have the time to invest in me, why should I invest in him I got a variety of texts on V-day, so I think contact would have been appropriate. Even if you said "Happy Chinese New Year." or something. It sounds like you are interested in her, but you are not showing her the signs that you are interested. She probably thinks you have moved on or are a player (or that's what I would think anyway) Women text guys for dates all the time. Just look at this forum and you'll see. Also, men might wait a week to ask for a second date because he might not want to seem desperate. Women don't wanna call a guy too early cuz the dude will seem desperate to them, but hate it when a guy calls too late in their book. I guess you never thought he might have other things to do in his life besides twiddling his thumbs, waiting to call you, huh?
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