agentzero Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Hey everyone- been reading these forums for a bit and would love some feedback. I had the unique experience of growing up in a rural area far from city life. My family homeschooled me till senior year of college. Now I never minded it as it gave me more time spend doing things I loved(except women). I'm now in my Sophomore year of college and kinda at a loss when it comes to women. I really don't have confidence issues and actually find women attracted to my laid back confident attitude. Problem is just don't know where to take it from there so I just ignore them, which usually increases there attraction but ends up with nothing else happening. Here's an example- I was at the college gym a couple of days ago and a women purposefully moves right in front of me and starts bending over and stretching. I ignore her and continue working out-she ends up trying harder to get my attention positioning her body in every way to attract me for the next 5 minutes. All great but in the end nothing happens. I was raised a southern gentleman and I guess the confident badass is my alter ego I put on to cover it up. I go out on dates and I fair pretty well for the first one. Conversation/jokes/playful flirting it just seems I treat them like a friend in a way and women get disinterested after that. I really don't know how to escalate things to the next level. I'm inexperienced but I hide it well so they probably take it as me just being a friend. Sorry for the long spiel but what should I do? I was raised a gentleman so I'm looking for a nice girl not really interested in hooking up with tons of people or anything like that. Haven't read much "material" besides Ask Men/Doc Love and to be honest I'm not sure whether its crap or gold. Any suggestions? Not really into routines or anything like that I just want to be able to find a quality women and take it from there. I have a lot of missed lessons to learn. Where do I start? Hunter
SilkRose Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Hey everyone- been reading these forums for a bit and would love some feedback. I had the unique experience of growing up in a rural area far from city life. My family homeschooled me till senior year of college. Now I never minded it as it gave me more time spend doing things I loved(except women). I'm now in my Sophomore year of college and kinda at a loss when it comes to women. I really don't have confidence issues and actually find women attracted to my laid back confident attitude. Problem is just don't know where to take it from there so I just ignore them, which usually increases there attraction but ends up with nothing else happening. Here's an example- I was at the college gym a couple of days ago and a women purposefully moves right in front of me and starts bending over and stretching. I ignore her and continue working out-she ends up trying harder to get my attention positioning her body in every way to attract me for the next 5 minutes. All great but in the end nothing happens. I was raised a southern gentleman and I guess the confident badass is my alter ego I put on to cover it up. I go out on dates and I fair pretty well for the first one. Conversation/jokes/playful flirting it just seems I treat them like a friend in a way and women get disinterested after that. I really don't know how to escalate things to the next level. I'm inexperienced but I hide it well so they probably take it as me just being a friend. Sorry for the long spiel but what should I do? I was raised a gentleman so I'm looking for a nice girl not really interested in hooking up with tons of people or anything like that. Haven't read much "material" besides Ask Men/Doc Love and to be honest I'm not sure whether its crap or gold. Any suggestions? Not really into routines or anything like that I just want to be able to find a quality women and take it from there. I have a lot of missed lessons to learn. Where do I start? Hunter You sound like such a lovely guy. I have no advice except, keep being a gentlemen. It is a wonderful thing, shame its so rare these days but it is wonderful. Hopefully you find the right person for you.
Author agentzero Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 I think a girl bending and stretching in front of you at a gym isn't really the girl you would want, so good for you. The problem is if you treat a girl like a friend and nothing else, they'll assume you aren't interested an move you to the friend zone. You need to make a move. Kiss her, or make sure she knows you are romantically interested. Thanks for the advice Starfish and the kind words Rose. What are some keys to relating romantic interest?
Author agentzero Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 (edited) Any more advice would be appreciated Edited February 17, 2010 by agentzero
You'reasian Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 (edited) I had the unique experience of growing up in a rural area far from city life. My family homeschooled me till senior year of college. Now I never minded it as it gave me more time spend doing things I loved(except women). I'm now in my Sophomore year of college and kinda at a loss when it comes to women. Time travel? Gimmee some. I really don't have confidence issues and actually find women attracted to my laid back confident attitude. Problem is just don't know where to take it from there so I just ignore them, which usually increases there attraction but ends up with nothing else happening. Here's an example- I was at the college gym a couple of days ago and a women purposefully moves right in front of me and starts bending over and stretching. I ignore her and continue working out-she ends up trying harder to get my attention positioning her body in every way to attract me for the next 5 minutes. All great but in the end nothing happens. I love it when they do that! Make some eye contact. Smile at her flexibility. Here's a trick - think about your favorite song when you're looking at her or when you talk to her, imagine that you've already got your hands around her hips, are standing toe to toe with her and you are already making out with her... That should give you the internal motivation to say what you need to say. Your non-verbal communication will send the right signals. What you will say is up to you, there are no lines, just say what comes natural - just pay attention to flow of conversation, making sure you've got good transition. Talk to her, try to end the conversation on a high tone and with some way of contacting her again. Keep those romantic thoughts going, make them vivid and just talk Edited February 17, 2010 by You'reasian
Author agentzero Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 Time travel? Gimmee some. Haha didn't mean college. I think that if we had time travel almost no problems would exist and we wouldn't need forums like this lol
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