Man.. Does She REALLY got to say that?

[littlewhiterose]

You should have jokingly (it cuts the tension) asked her if she was going to call them, and gauged her reaction. If she was shocked by the question then she was trying to make you jealous or as someone else said, trying to boost her social status in your eyes.

[and.then.some]

Maybe she's just telling a friendly story.

 

Assume the best! I felt like a total @$$ once after doing something similar with an ex who I reeeally liked a lot. I learned a very valuable lesson from that. I seriously didn't know any better. I said a couple of things which made him very jealous. He just assumed that I had said those things with some... motive. It honestly never occurred to me that it would make him jealous or uncomfortable, as in my last serious relationship that sort of stuff wasn't a big deal. In the previous relationship, we talked openly about exes or being hit on by some weirdo. This guy's jealousy ended up being what lead to our break up. I'm pretty sure that my nonchalant attitude fed the fire without me even knowing till it was too late.

 

So, I say give her the benefit of the doubt. If she does things like this a lot, casually mention it to her. Ask her why she mentioned it or tell her how it makes you feel, etc.

 

I don't have the best brain to mouth filter when I'm comfortable with someone. As well, I'm not the jealous type. The ex mentioned above was not only jealous, but felt that I must not really love him if I didn't get jealous. He actually tried to make me jealous to get back at me. Me not getting jealous only made it worse. LOL Don't be that guy. If it's common behavior for her, say something about it.

Edited February 18, 2010 by and.then.some

[meerkat stew]

I think a derivative of this thread topic is to not necessarily open our mouths and speak whatever thought comes into our minds. There should be a mental "watering hole" where thoughts hang out until we decide whether to speak them.