FabulousLadee Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 At what moment did you know that you wanted to marry your wife? What happened that gave you that revelation?
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 No particular catalyst or moment for me. I felt that way from extremely early in the relationship. IE, just a few days after we first went out!
Author FabulousLadee Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 No particular catalyst or moment for me. I felt that way from extremely early in the relationship. IE' date=' just a few days after we first went out![/quote'] Wow! That's very interesting. Do you think that most men know right off hand like that but they just don't say anything?
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Wow! That's very interesting. Do you think that most men know right off hand like that but they just don't say anything? My guess is, it would not be typical; I was young and enamored with the feeling of being 'in love.' I wanted her to be mine forever! No regrets here though; 5 wonderful children and 17 wonderful years later - overall things are better than most marriages I know and see from my point of view!
redtail Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 My first marriage was when I was too young, I know that now. After 21 years and her infidelities, I got a divorce. So with my second (current and last) wife, I was cautious but some how knew after about three dates. It was obvious to me that we were and are, very compatible. Her unspoken signals to me, made it easy for me to see us getting married. After I proposed, we planned the wedding about 10 months after that.
nddb Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 (edited) 4 weeks, and I knew. Proposed after 3 months whirlwind courtship. When you see something you know is right, you just know. Didn't see with previous girlfriends but I never could figure out why. For me, it felt like a body part of mine from a previous lifetime was found and it fit so well, it had to be mine. That was nearly 20 years ago...still going... Edited February 16, 2010 by nddb
alphamale Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 At what moment did you know that you wanted to marry your wife? What happened that gave you that revelation? i don't think i was in the right state of mind when i asked my ex-wife to marry me. it was all wrong. there were numerous red flags waving all over the place and yet i went ahead with it. big mistake. one of the biggest i've made in life
crazycatlady Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 My H has often told me that he knew when I opened the door and he was standing there - we met online, before online dating was the "thing" back in 96. He told me that night "when we get married we will have to have seperate houses to get any sleep" lol we couldn't keep having sex, we pretty much jumped into bed within 5 hours of "meeting (we knew each other for 3 years online, but did not have an online romance, we just argued with each other about politics and other things). The next weekend we spent together, it moved to seperate bedrooms, then seperate beds the third weekend. We were a bit like rabbits at first. But that first weekend he also named our first son - yes we did actually name him that, though oddly enough we did not bring up the name the first time around though we didn't find out what we were having we had a different boy named picked out. So I'm answering for him, he says it wasn't love at first sight, but instead he just knew he had to have me in his life and he did. CCL
Chitowngirl Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 4 weeks, and I knew. Proposed after 3 months whirlwind courtship. When you see something you know is right, you just know. Didn't see with previous girlfriends but I never could figure out why. For me, it felt like a body part of mine from a previous lifetime was found and it fit so well, it had to be mine. That was nearly 20 years ago...still going... aw....love it
Enema Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 I never had a moment where I "knew". I think that's an antiquated, romanticized way of thinking. Like "love at first sight" or "soulmates". We had been living together for about a year and as her parents are semi-traditional asians, they had strong views about living together outside of marriage. Now-wife convinced me that we should just get engaged and it would shut them up. We'd been together for about 3 years at that point and after assessing our relationship objectively in terms of likes/dislikes, views on careers, children, finances, religion, sex, goals... I figured we were a good fit and said ok. We were engaged for 3 years and have now been married for a further 2. No problems yet.
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