mortensorchid Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I might have overreacted today, but I decided better safe than sorry. I was on Match today, checked a message. A few days ago I got an email from someone, I responded to it just with a light message of "Hello ____ thank you for your email. I'd like to get to know you as well, will write more soon as I'm off to do some things". He wrote me back earlier today, saying "What's a good time to talk on the phone for you?". I signed onto Match and was checking some other messages and things when he saw me online. As I have disabled the IM since it makes my computer crash, he wrote me an email immediately saying "Is this a good time to talk?". Call me hyper-sensitive but I blocked him. That reeked of desperation. I think I just dodged a bullet.
You'reasian Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I might have overreacted today, but I decided better safe than sorry. I was on Match today, checked a message. A few days ago I got an email from someone, I responded to it just with a light message of "Hello ____ thank you for your email. I'd like to get to know you as well, will write more soon as I'm off to do some things". He wrote me back earlier today, saying "What's a good time to talk on the phone for you?". I signed onto Match and was checking some other messages and things when he saw me online. As I have disabled the IM since it makes my computer crash, he wrote me an email immediately saying "Is this a good time to talk?". Call me hyper-sensitive but I blocked him. That reeked of desperation. I think I just dodged a bullet. Internet dating is like a box of chocolates...ya nevah know what ya gonna get
Johnny M Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 No offense, but from reading some of your posts on this board, you certainly know a thing or two about desperation
polksaladannie Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I might have overreacted today, but I decided better safe than sorry. I was on Match today, checked a message. A few days ago I got an email from someone, I responded to it just with a light message of "Hello ____ thank you for your email. I'd like to get to know you as well, will write more soon as I'm off to do some things". He wrote me back earlier today, saying "What's a good time to talk on the phone for you?". I signed onto Match and was checking some other messages and things when he saw me online. As I have disabled the IM since it makes my computer crash, he wrote me an email immediately saying "Is this a good time to talk?". Call me hyper-sensitive but I blocked him. That reeked of desperation. I think I just dodged a bullet. Ok wait. He emailed. You emailed back. He emailed you and then IMed you. Honestly I don't think it is so bad. You expressed interest and that person is following up. The internet is not like real life. You can't read tone. Were you truly interested or just being polite?
greatgirlfriend Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I put ads on Plentyoffish, Datehookup and Craigslist. Most of the guys who emailed/pmed me either can't read my requirements (I was clear when I said never married/no kids), or sound desperate. I don't want a guy who wants to rush things, I've dated guys like that. Yes, I actually know someone who got engaged after three months of dating and this is extreme. I know I'll get flack for this, but part of the reason I really like the one I wanted was because he wanted to take it slow. I've been praying all day he comes to his senses because otherwise my choices are the desperate guys or the ones with kids.
USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I might have overreacted today, but I decided better safe than sorry. I was on Match today, checked a message. A few days ago I got an email from someone, I responded to it just with a light message of "Hello ____ thank you for your email. I'd like to get to know you as well, will write more soon as I'm off to do some things". He wrote me back earlier today, saying "What's a good time to talk on the phone for you?". I signed onto Match and was checking some other messages and things when he saw me online. As I have disabled the IM since it makes my computer crash, he wrote me an email immediately saying "Is this a good time to talk?". Call me hyper-sensitive but I blocked him. That reeked of desperation. I think I just dodged a bullet. USMCHokie frantically writes this down as something not to do...
DustySaltus Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 (edited) All i'll say is if something like this turns you off, strap on your seatbelt because it's going to be one hell of a ride! Edited February 16, 2010 by DustySaltus grammar
greatgirlfriend Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 All i'll say is if something like this turns you off, strap on your seatbelt because it's going to be one hell of a ride! So in other words, most of the guys online are like this? Had a feeling. Further proof that only scum guys are online.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I think it was the quick " when can I call you" that reeked more. If he hadn't jumped the gun with that maybe you would have talked to him more. With online dating, I think if a guy/girl is willing to at least talk more through email or ims it shows and and tells you that they're not in a rush to hurry things along. Also it tells you they're patient when it comes to wanting to fully get to know you.
USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 So in other words, most of the guys online are like this? Had a feeling. Further proof that only scum guys are online. And further proof that women associate the large majority of normal/average guys with the bottom 10% scum of the online dating world. And then complain that they can't find anyone.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 And further proof that women associate the large majority of normal/average guys with the bottom 10% scum of the online dating world. And then complain that they can't find anyone. Haven't seen these normal guys online, at least on the free sites. I'm seeing: Guys constantly iming or emailing me many messages a day. Guys wanting ridiculous things. I had several who were fat ask for thin women and another jerk wanting to marry a virgin. Guys who ignore when I state never married and no kids. Screw this, I don't want these guys.
Zeegagge Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Personally, I think you may have overreacted. I have no idea what online dating is like, so what do I know? However, myself, I find that written communication can be very limiting and that it's much easier to get to know someone verbally.
meerkat stew Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 So in other words, most of the guys online are like this? Had a feeling. Further proof that only scum guys are online. How is it scummy to send someone an email asking if now is a good time to talk? It's as if people want to believe this guy is just sitting waiting for MO to log on. Who knows the real situation, could be anything. I hope some of you remember this thread the next time a woman starts a thread complaining about men who wait several days to call after getting a number or after a date. This is exactly why men play waiting games with women. Yes, OP, you did overreact IMO.
polksaladannie Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Personally, I think you may have overreacted. I have no idea what online dating is like, so what do I know? However, myself, I find that written communication can be very limiting and that it's much easier to get to know someone verbally. This. I see the online factor as a way to get introduced. A few emails. Maybe a call or two. And then a meet and greet. Sorry, but I am looking for a relationship, not to be a penpal,kwim?
greatgirlfriend Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 This. I see the online factor as a way to get introduced. A few emails. Maybe a call or two. And then a meet and greet. Sorry, but I am looking for a relationship, not to be a penpal,kwim? You're too good for the guys online and so am I. I realize that now. I am deleting my accounts at all the online sites and instead am looking for a singles group near me. Maybe you could try your local chapter of Parents Without Partners?
polksaladannie Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 You're too good for the guys online and so am I. I realize that now. I am deleting my accounts at all the online sites and instead am looking for a singles group near me. Maybe you could try your local chapter of Parents Without Partners? I am actually giving meetup a try next. No PWPs in my area.
meerkat stew Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 You're too good for the guys online and so am I. I realize that now. I am deleting my accounts at all the online sites and instead am looking for a singles group near me. Maybe you could try your local chapter of Parents Without Partners? Many of the people you meet at the singles group will be doing online dating too in all likelihood, many of them who don't date online will be clingy or strange. There is no difference whatsoever between people who date from online and people who don't other than online can facilitate certain cheaters who need that little extra anonymity and reduction of chance of getting caught to start them cheating.
soulm8 Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Personally, I think you may have overreacted. I have no idea what online dating is like, so what do I know? However, myself, I find that written communication can be very limiting and that it's much easier to get to know someone verbally. Agreed. Holy crap! You blocked him because he was hoping to talk to you? Perhaps he was on his way out the door soon. I've, for the most part, had great experiences with online dating. The sooner a guy wants to get my number and/or offers his to actually TALK LIVE the better... that said, I don't automatically run for the phone.
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Agreed. Holy crap! You blocked him because he was hoping to talk to you? Perhaps he was on his way out the door soon. I've, for the most part, had great experiences with online dating. The sooner a guy wants to get my number and/or offers his to actually TALK LIVE the better... that said, I don't automatically run for the phone. + 1,000 free sites - you get what you pay for......
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